A question for female Disboarders, have you turned down a date before because the asker was bald?

[Buzz Rules]

Thanks to all who responded so far. My friend feels a lot better after seeing the positive responses. It definitely made his day a lot brighter.

 

[mousefan73]

Been married a while bit back in my day I’ve never been asked out by a bald guy, but I can’t say that’s my make or break it item. For me it’s the overall package. I’ve seen some nasty looking bald guys and some hot looking bald guys. And also has to do with personality and who they are to, so the vibe has to fit

 

[NotUrsula]

The single women I know say baldness isn't an issue, but going to real extremes to attempt to hide it (especially if it isn't working at all) is a little bit off-putting. (I've been married for ages, but as a theoretical, I'd agree.)

 

[tzolkin]

I haven’t dated since I was 18 and I’m 60 now. I think alot of men look sexy with bald heads. Have you seen The Rock? Whoa!

The bald/shaved look is considered sexy by many women. There are a few guys that I work with who are bald and they tend to get hit on/flirted with way more than the guys with full heads of hair.

When I was in college I did once because I thought the person asking was lying about his age. I was 18 & he said he was 19 but the hairline didn't match anyone I knew.

I know several guys who went bald in their teens (including my dad and some cousins). My son's hair is starting to thin on top a bit (he's a junior in high school). My husband has a full head of long hair, so unfortunately son must have gotten his hair genes from my dad's side of the family.

 

[ronandannette]

His appearance likely improved by shaving his head vs having bald patches.

The last guy I dated shaved his head for this reason. Never knew him with hair. I also went out with a guy who nearly always wore a hate. The few time I saw him without one he was balding and had a close cut but not shaved.

If a woman won’t date him solely because of his hair/lack of hair they are not worth his time.

I agree that there’s someone out there for everyone, who will recognize and appreciate the unique characteristics we all have, and nobody should lament the ones who aren’t interested for whatever reason. I also think that if a person isn’t attractive to you, (superficial reason or not), the two are probably not a fit. I wouldn’t have liked the men I dated to feel like they were “overlooking” some element of my appearance that didn’t appeal to them. Nor would I have been truly happy with a man (fantastic as his personality may have been) who I didn’t find physically attractive.

 

[disneychrista]

I agree that there’s someone out there for everyone, who will recognize and appreciate the unique characteristics we all have, and nobody should lament the ones who aren’t interested for whatever reason. I also think that if a person isn’t attractive to you, (superficial reason or not), the two are probably not a fit. I wouldn’t have liked the men I dated to feel like they were “overlooking” some element of my appearance that didn’t appeal to them. Nor would I have been truly happy with a man (fantastic as his personality may have been) who I didn’t find physically attractive.

Attraction is a funny thing. I have dated a couple guys were I did not have instant attraction for them. After really getting to know someone attraction can develop. I don’t disagree if there is no attraction at all or repulsion then it won’t work. And I have passed on guys, when online dating, solely based on physical attraction. I’ve even thought to myself as I did if we had meet in person I might have given them a chance.

From experience, it truly sucks to know that a superficial reason is why a person chooses to not pursue a relationship. That if not for this one thing they would. It also doesn’t feel great to know that a superficial reason is WHY someone wants to pursue a relationship. Odd how in both these cases it is the same superficial reason.

 

[Buzz Rules]

My friend takes a great amount of pride in how he looks not because of arrogance but because he tries to take care of himself as best he can. I think he was partly feeling the way he did because losing your hair as a guy can sometimes feel like you are losing a piece of your self worth.

 

[fla4fun]

My friend takes a great amount of pride in how he looks not because of arrogance but because he tries to take care of himself as best he can. I think he was partly feeling the way he did because losing your hair as a guy can sometimes feel like you are losing a piece of your self worth.

It’s really a shame that some people are so shallow that they make people like your friend worry about something he may not be able to help. He is the same person whether he has a full head of hair or is totally bald, and a woman worth dating will know that.

 

[Buzz Rules]

It’s really a shame that some people are so shallow that they make people like your friend worry about something he may not be able to help. He is the same person whether he has a full head of hair or is totally bald, and a woman worth dating will know that.

I agree but I have met both type of women while dating. One literally dumped me after one date saying “You’re a great guy but I only date beach gods”. I know there are more genuine women out there then shallow ones but it’s hard to see who someone is truly when asking them out initially. So I can understand my friend’s fear to a point as well.

 

[fla4fun]

I agree but I have met both type of women while dating. One literally dumped me after one date saying “You’re a great guy but I only date beach gods”. I know there are more genuine women out there then shallow ones but it’s hard to see who someone is truly when asking them out initially. So I can understand my friend’s fear to a point as well.

I am so sorry you had to deal with that!

 

[Buzz Rules]

I am so sorry you had to deal with that!

Eh, such is life. I’m in good shape just not a body builder.

 

[MrsPete]

When I was younger /still dating, no bald guys ever asked me out ... but that wouldn't have been a hang-up for me.

 

[MrsPete]

I agree but I have met both type of women while dating. One literally dumped me after one date saying “You’re a great guy but I only date beach gods”...

Wow, good luck to her and her future dates as they all grow older.
You seriously dodged a bullet.

 

[xcrashx15]

I got divorced from my ex husband a few years ago - he was balding and I think he’s completely bald now. He was insecure about the balding even though we were happily married when it began, so I get where your friend is coming from. The balding played no factor in our divorce and one of the funniest and most attractive guys I dated post-divorce was totally bald. He would crack an occasional joke about being bald but aside from him pointing it out that way, I never gave it any thought.

I also knew someone (coworker’s ex) who told many people that they got divorced because my coworker wasn’t attracted to him after he went bald. I know from watching the whole process that the divorce was really due to horrible things that he said and did, but of course he wasn’t admitting that to anyone so the baldness was a convenient excuse. Probably some of the perception behind bald men getting a bad rap is due to guys like that, because for most women I know, it wouldn’t be an issue!

 

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