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[Disney Princess 6]

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[Toby'sFriend]

If you loved the house that much, maybe you could have a similar floor plan built.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Originally posted by Toby'sFriend
If you loved the house that much, maybe you could have a similar floor plan built.

I was just thinking that. Some friends of mine actually did this. They bought land in an area that was a little cheaper and had a home built that was similiar to the one they'd *really* wanted when they bought their first house.

 

[Microcell]

DO you know what I saw???? My dream houses!! I will never afford them, but I was excited to see this and maybe it is a trend for other places, but this was the first time I saw this:

BRAND NEW HOUSES BUILT LIKE 1800's!! My Dh and I always talked about building a house that had the big wrap around porch and lattice work out the wazoo! I turned down a street to get my DS back into his car seat- long story, and there they were, streets and streets of old style houses just built.

Don't fear, you will find a great house and it will be better than you ever hoped for! What I would give to go to open houses tomorrow!

 

[totalia]

This will probably seem cold but...

It's just a house. You'll find another.

 

[AZKathy]

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[orvilleair]

Is it the house or the neighborhood?

We entered a raffle for a "dream house" and logically, we would have no shot. Well the reality of that came true, and we were bummed all winter. Eventually, we figured that we could always add a room or two to the house we live in right now and be ok.

 

[laurie31]

I will share what happened to us. We also found our dream house. It was sooo perfect. Not just the floor plan, but the location. A wonderful neighborhood and a gorgeous view. We bid. We lost. We were soooo sad.

We searched but couldn't find anything remotely comparable in our price range, and the homes we sort of liked were twice as expensive as the house we'd wanted. We became discouraged. Then we took stock of the situation. We decided maybe it wasn't meant for us to have that house and we would build instead. We saved up a good down payment. For two years we lived on my salary and put all of DH's paycheck into savings (stock mutual funds, actually, but that may be a bit more risky now...) Then we found a lot we really liked and started looking at house plans.

Then guess what happened? We were at a party at the house next door to our former dream house and saw...a for sale sign in its yard. We looked at it again. The owners had not changed ANYTHING. It was just like it had been three years earlier. We were thrilled. This time, we could afford it - we were ready We bid, we won! We saw it on a Monday, signed a contract two days later, put our house on the market the next day and it sold the following Saturday (I wasn't expecting it to sell THAT fast - we had to pack in a hurry!)

We have lived there 7 years now and we are so happy

So....maybe you haven't lost it forever. Maybe the timing isn't right

Or maybe there's something better for you out there after all...

Good luck! I know how frustrating it can be!

Laurie

 

[disneyworld!]

it may have been your dream house, sorry to hear you lost it. but I say everything happens for a reason!
hey, just remeber, you do not have it all that bad....some of us may soon be completey homeless from our 1 bedroom apt! we can only real DREAM of having somewhere to live, other then a box!
hang in there.......

 

[dumboiu]

It does sound as if your stressing about the lost dream house is just a way of covering up some other issues you need to deal with. You need to look forward, not backwards.

Good luck!

 

[lapinluv]

Sorry you're feeling blue, but it is just a house and doesn't even seem like you were that invested in it (if you only placed a bid and it wasn't accepted). I know that having a bid not accepted is tough, but you'll never find another house if you can't find a way to get over it.

When we were looking for a house, we put 3 other bids on homes and lost the all. The last one we lost as our "dream house" or so we thought. Ends up that we got our true dream house in the end and I'm glad we were forced to keep looking. Good luck without house search! Just keep an open mind

 

[inaminute]

"What's for you won't go by you."

I was given this bit of advice by a Scottish woman a long time ago. It has helped me to keep things in perspective.

If the house was meant to be yours, it would be. This just wasn't IT. There is something else out there for you. Something better. Just be patient. It WILL make itself known.

 

[Elwood Blues]

Originally posted by Microcell
DO you know what I saw???? My dream houses!! I will never afford them, but I was excited to see this and maybe it is a trend for other places, but this was the first time I saw this:

BRAND NEW HOUSES BUILT LIKE 1800's!! My Dh and I always talked about building a house that had the big wrap around porch and lattice work out the wazoo! I turned down a street to get my DS back into his car seat- long story, and there they were, streets and streets of old style houses just built.

I've seen this around here as well. It usually happens it smaller towns so the new houses fit into the existing styles.

Very nice indeed but EXPENSIVE!!!!

 

[decker96]

This same thing happened to us when we were looking to buy our first home. We had been looking for 4 months with no success. I was with our realtor in a beautiful house that had all kinds of amenities that we liked (hardwood floors, built-in hutch in the dining room, great backyard, great neighborhood). While we were there the realtor who had the house listed called my realtor and said that the owner's were looking at a bid right then and did we want to put a bid in too. Well, DH wasn't with me, he was at work and this being our 1st house there was no way I'd put a bid in without him seeing it first. We asked if they could wait a few hours so DH could see it, but they owners took the bid they had.
I was soooo upset. I would drive by that house a couple times a week just to look at it from the outside. I thought we'd never find anything as nice. Two months later we saw a house we liked even better that we bid on and got. To be honest, it was a good thing we didn't get the first one because this one was bigger, had another 1/2 bath instead of just the one, the basement was finished off, the garage was attached instead of detached and they left the swingset and playhouse that was in the backyard which my DD then 2 absolutely loved. The neighborhood was just as nice and the backyard was even bigger.
Keep an open mind, you never know what you might find!!

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

We also had an interesting house story...

After our second child was born, we saw that we were on the verge of outgrowing our house. We would need to move--not right away, but eventually. DH was in grad school--he said, look all you want, but we're not getting serious until I finish (in about a year). Well, there was a house, operating as a B&B, in town, that had been on and off the market for a couple years. Way out of our price range, but just such a nice house. About 6 months after the baby was born, a new agent took over the listing, dropped the price to close to our range, and held an open house. I went, taking copious notes, and fell in love. It was a 200 year old colonial, the original settlement of our town, 4000 square feet, 2 1/2 acres, pool... When I got home, I told DH, it's a house we could grow old in! He said, fine, but our deal was that I finish grad school first. So there I was--we had 5 months to go. I drove by weekly, admiring the house, dreaming, not sure what would happen...

The week after DH finished school, he went to see it. He fell in love. After much wrangling and headaches, we finally got it--at less than we expected! But I went through months of not knowing. I had to just give it over to a higher power that if it was meant to be, it would work out. We've been here for 6 years now. We still love it and hope to grow old here.

Anyway, my point (and I did have one...) is that you never know why things happen, you just have to trust that they will work out. We like to believe that we were in some way being rewarded for the many hours we spent volunteering in the fire dept. in this town, to be blessed with its original settlement. Things will work out for you, too. Disappointment is part of life. You might want to think about what, exactly, made this particular house so important to you and why you're having trouble letting go. I wish you the best.

 

[Disney Princess 6]

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