6 yr old suspended for sexual harassment?

[Alicnwondrln]

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11252421/

the boy touched her waitband and was suspended for 3 days

 

[whosyourdaddy]

Freaking insane! What have we come too in this country today!

 

[Alicnwondrln]

I couldnt believe this sotry it was on the news last night but I still could not beleive it
i mean kids need to keep there hands to themsleves but maybe they should have just brought the parents in and spoke with all involved

 

[DawnCt1]

I wonder if he will be on the 'sexual offender' list,

 

[Tigger&Belle]

That's crazy! I have a 6yo and he does not have the ability at his age to think that way. He's very physical and I've told him he has to keep his hands to himself.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

I wonder if he will be on the 'sexual offender' list,

good one Dawn

 

[HonestAbe]

Principal "RESPECT MY AUTHORITA" in officer barbrady voice.

I wonder if the police had him charged with resisting arrest too cuz you know it's gonna be hard to cuff a 6 yr old.

It's nice to know our taxes are going to be used for the DA's office or court system to have to deal with this MORONIC situation.

Whoever is pressing the charges should come forth so I can press charges against them for thinking about touching my wasteband.

 

[Poohgirl]

Im sure this will work so much better then what...maybe having an actual discussion with the little boy saying the girl didn't like being touched and would he please not do it again, and having him apologize? nah.... suspension works so much better for a 6 year old!

 

[chobie]

Of course we're only hearing the Mother's side right now because the school district cannot release details. Based on what she says it does seem ridiculous. However, there is always more to it then what gets in the news.

Also, though a 6 year old may not understand what he/she is doing is sexual abuse, it is not uncommon for kids who have been sexually abused to to try to sexually abuse other kids.

 

[disney50fam]

OMGOSH!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is just Stupied!

 

[Cindyluwho]

Of course we're only hearing the Mother's side right now because the school district cannot release details. Based on what she says it does seem ridiculous. However, there is always more to it then what gets in the news.

Also, though a 6 year old may not understand what he/she is doing is sexual abuse, it is not uncommon for kids who have been sexually abused to to try to sexually abuse other kids.

ITA I'd like to hear both sides of the story on this one. It may have been nothing but what if it were your daughter and he actually had his hand down her pants. ewwwww

 

[Toby'sFriend]

While I agree that a suspension for a first offense in this case is most like way over top and ineffective -- I don't agree with a couple of issues here from the Mother's view.

First, I'm not saying this is the case here but there are plenty of First Graders who do know the concept of "sex" and while they probably don't have those urges themselves, they do emulate what they are allowed to see on tv and in society at large. It really depends on what kind of environment this kid is coming from.

He also didn't just touch her waistband, he put two of his fingers inside of her waistband. While an average 6 year old does not understand sex and sexual harrassment, all of them should (and most do) understand the concept of physical privacy, private areas, not allowing others to touch their own private areas and not touching the private areas of others. The boy did not follow those concepts and he needs to in order to be in a classroom with other students. Somebody needs to work on that.

However, most 6 year olds will also view Suspension as "Look! I Get a Free Vacation!" so this could definately do very little to alleviate the problem,

 

[tkd lisa]

For those who say he didn't know what he was doing, when my DD was 5, she personally experienced a boy (4 1/2) who clearly knew what he was doing. I won't go into details, but I personally was certain this boy had been abused. The pre-school tried to brush it off, and I pulled my kids out of there so fast your head would spin! The only reason I personally didn't report to the police it was because they would have required my DD to be interviewed, and I didn't want her more traumatized than she was. Thanks to a teen ager who was an aide in the classroom, things were stopped before it got too bad, but my DD refused to wear shorts for the rest of the summer.

So while I do think on the surface, this punishment was pretty extreme, I did want to point out that there may be more to it than you think.

 

[mtemm]

It's nice to know our taxes are going to be used for the DA's office or court system to have to deal with this MORONIC situation.

Whoever is pressing the charges should come forth so I can press charges against them for thinking about touching my wasteband.

actually, they did send the case there but apparently you aren't a juvenile until you are 7, so they can't pursue it.

This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. I actually dread my son going to school in a few years because god forbid he hug someone...he's a big hugger.

 

[LisaR]

For those who say he didn't know what he was doing, when my DD was 5, she personally experienced a boy (4 1/2) who clearly knew what he was doing. I won't go into details, but I personally was certain this boy had been abused. The pre-school tried to brush it off, and I pulled my kids out of there so fast your head would spin! The only reason I personally didn't report to the police it was because they would have required my DD to be interviewed, and I didn't want her more traumatized than she was. Thanks to a teen ager who was an aide in the classroom, things were stopped before it got too bad, but my DD refused to wear shorts for the rest of the summer.

So while I do think on the surface, this punishment was pretty extreme, I did want to point out that there may be more to it than you think.

But the thing is, in your case you felt the boy was being abused. If that was the case, then suspending him from school was not going to fix the problem. The same for this case. If the suspended child really did something that wasn't appropriate and he understood what he was doing, then suspension for three days is not even close to the fixing this. If the child didn't have a clue what he was doing and the school overreacted, then suspension again isn't the answer.

Lisa

 

[laura001]

What the heck! I am so tired of this stuff going on, what happened to teaching our children to show their emotions etc. but in a respectful manner? I realize that this boy did not do anything wrong, was making a general comment. Soon, eye contact will have to be avoided!

 

[Alice's Mom]

There has to be more to it, at least I hope there is!

I have to say, I have issues right now with this, my best friend has a son who always wants to kiss my daughter and say she is his girlfriend and once dropped his pants to the girls to show off. He is also very touchy feely. They are both 5. All play dates have ceased about a year ago.

They go to the same YMCA after school a couple days a week and my daughter refuses to play with him now and he has been warned several times about his behavior. I don't know what his school situation is like as he isn't in the same grade school as her, but I imagine you can only give so many warnings until you have to suspend.

 

[bimshire]

Principal "RESPECT MY AUTHORITA" in officer barbrady voice.

I wonder if the police had him charged with resisting arrest too cuz you know it's gonna be hard to cuff a 6 yr old.

It's nice to know our taxes are going to be used for the DA's office or court system to have to deal with this MORONIC situation.

Whoever is pressing the charges should come forth so I can press charges against them for thinking about touching my wasteband.

Shouldn't be too hard to cuff a 6 yr. old since many believed cuffing a 5 yr. old girl was proper police procedure.

 

[DawnCt1]

The boy said that the girl poked him first. Is she going to be "prosecuted" as well.
For this to be sexual harrassment, it needs to be "unwelcomed, on going and pervasive." It doesn't sound like that is the case.

This incident trivializes REAL sexual harrassment. Its ridiculous.

 

[disykat]

I'm not buying it. Dollars to donuts there have been continual problems with the child and a lack of support from the parents in dealing with him. I simply don't believe the story.