6 Days To GO & Family Tragedy

[jonsmom57]

We have planned for our first DL trip for almost two years.

This morning, my husband's neice, died. She was just 8 years old and was found dead in her bed.

We are supposed to leave Monday & now I really don't know what to do. I wasnt close to her but feel such profound sadness.

Our first trip to WDW was during 9/11 and we were overwhelmed with sadness and wanted to come home.

Not sure if we should cancel or not.

 

[Albort]

whats planned is planned. You cant stop yourself from doing something you really enjoy for respect.

My grandma is in coma but my parents had a European trip to go. My Dad told my mom that its all about enjoying YOUR life, and not of others.

just my 2 cents...

 

[MyMonkies]

OMG. That is TERRIBLE. I cannot imagine that nor do I ever want to.

As far as the trip goes-I guess for me it would depend on a few things.....Are you close with that part of the family, will you need to be there to support them? Do they even live near you? I guess what I'm getting at is would going to Disney cause you to not do something for them that you would do if you weren't going to Disney? Will you miss a service by going to Disney?

My great-grandma (I know, totally different) passed away the day before my wedding. I struggled with the honeymoon part but everyone insisted we go as they didn't know at that point when there would even be a service. Dh & I had gone on a cruise & as soon as we got back I called-turned out the service was going to start in a couple of hours & we made it

I am really sorry for your family's loss.

I forgot to ask, do they have any idea what happened? Was she ill? Anything? I have an 8 y.o. too....

 

[jacky b]

Wow, sorry to hear about the little girl, regardless of not being close to her, it is sad to hear such a young girl has passed!

I would keep you plans for the trip, I am sure the family will understand.

 

[6Smiles]

I am so sorry for your family's loss. I think you need to do what is best for your family.

 

[WannaBeAPrincess]

I am so sorry. I can't even imagine such a loss, nor do I want to. I was curious as well if they knew what had caused her death. I have an 8 year old too.

As for the trip, I think the pp brought up some good questions to ask yourself. Will the fact you are going to DL prevent you from being of some assistance to the family? Will you miss a service, etc.? Only you and your dh can make the decision, but I wish you luck. And again, I'm so sorry.

 

[EmmersIsTheMommy]

I would go.

Honestly, it would just ADD to the sadness.

If you think your trip would be horrid if you go, then I guess rethink it but...staying home isn't going to change what's happened, ya know?

I'm so sorry for your loss

 

[teatime]

This is so heart wrenching, please accept my deep condolences. What ever you decide will be the right decision hon.We can not make the decision for you but can back you up in what ever you decide

 

[Kayla's Mom]

Wow, I am so sorry...I am choked up here, thinking about it. My DD is almost 8. I agree with other posters, you need to do what you think is right for your family.

 

[bumbershoot]

Oh gracious, I am so sorry for your family's loss.


If this won't affect your daily lives (no funeral you would go to, etc) I would consider continuing with your trip. You can't change anything, and sitting at home doesn't help things. If going on the trip would cause you to miss things you should/would/could go to, I would skip the trip. Or if you really think that you would be miserable (b/c it is a very very sad situation) then postpone the trip.

 

[Queenbillabong]

I don't have any advice to add, just wanted to give you my condolences on the loss of such a young child.

 

[chickyann]

Oh I am so sorry, what a tragedy.

My thoughts & prayers are with your family.

 

[LittleBlackRaincloud]

Nothing to add except that I am sorry for your loss.

 

[jonsmom57]

Thank you all for your kind thoughts & prayers. Hubby is on the phone with his brother. Will get more details.

This makes me want to spend more time with my son.

 

[pinkblush]

I just wanted to say I am so very sorry for your family's loss.

 

[Ms. Shuttergirl]

Goodness, this is just awful. I feel so badly for your family. Terribly sorry for your loss.

 

[pixiewings71]

Oh no!!! I'm so sorry for your loss!!!! Hug your DS tight tonight and in the coming days. I can't even imagine, my youngest is 9.


As for the trip, see when the service is or if you'll be needed for anything. I know I'm far away from family so if this happened I wouldn't be there for them until right around the time of the services so I couldn't give immediate support. Chances are services will be before your trip, can you make the service and still do the trip? If not contact Disney and see if you can cancel or move your dates without penalty, I can't imagine them not working with you in this type of situation.

Again, I'm so sorry for you loss!!

 

[jonsmom57]

No word yet on a cause....just suspicious.

What a horrible thing for a family to endure.

They may not have a funeral & quite frankly I wouldnt blame them.

 

[kailuagirl]

My heart breaks for your family. I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[jernysgirl]

Make sure to take into account what your DS thinks about the whole thing. I would hate to see him left out of such a crucial decision. You wouldn't want him to feel penalized for this, by losing a family vacation to DLR that you all had been looking forward too. Definitely value the time that you have with him and try to create some special happy memories together as a family, whether you are at home or DLR.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.