I have done the Napa Rose Chef's Counter and the NR wine pairing (plus a few regular meals). The food is wonderful and I'll bet you'd be treated very well. I'm sorry to say that I've not been impressed with the service there other than the Chef's Counter, where we got the royal treatment. On the other hand, I love the NR lounge. I like to get a table by the fireplace. The food is also wonderful and less expensive. The atmosphere is a little more casual but still posh and I find it more comfortable.
I would have said Ralph Brennan's Jazz Kitchen but they're in the midst of a remodel.
A lot of people love Naples. It's a sort of upscale pizza/Italian restaurant. I *personally* find it kind of meh, but it's a nice venue and lots of fun.