4 year old -reward/naughty chart?

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  1. Wilsonfamily4

    Wilsonfamily4 DIS Veteran

    Aug 29, 2006
    I am looking for something to use with my 4 year old daughter. Some kind of reward chart that when she is good I can give her a star or when she does something bad I can remove a star. I have never used one and am looking for some ideas and somewhere cheap to get it.
    Thanks all.

    MSSANDRA DIS Veteran

    Sep 14, 2006
    Make your own and let her help you. just grab a piece of poster paper (.50 at most) and some $store stickers of things she really likes. Focus on one or two desired behavors at a time. Write the goal and if possible draw on glue on a picture such as toys for picking up her own toys. Mark off squares for each day and decide on a reward for ever how many stickers she earns. For example 10 stickers equals getting to choose desert that night or a trip to the park. Avoid material items to save money. other ideas might be a extra bedtime story, get to stay up 15 extra minutes or what ever. i would focus on positive and not take off stickers at all.

    good luck. Fours love this type of motivation.
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  4. meeskamouska

    meeskamouska <marquee><font color=blue>Doesn't go with jelly</m

    Oct 28, 2006
    I got a similar chart for my three year old at a Mardels (Christian/Teacher supply store). It was blank and I bought reuseable stickers for it. It has worked great for her night time ritual!!!! And she earns Disney dollars for a full chart at the end of the week!!!
  5. monorailsilver

    monorailsilver DIS Veteran

    Jun 20, 2002
  6. Donald - my hero

    Donald - my hero <font color=blue>Aww yes. The dreaded "mouse hand"

    Jun 11, 2006
    We did this with our kids. BUT never took away because I felt that would instill the feeling of if I do something wrong Mom won't love me. I would just tell them that they wouldn't get a sticker that day. ONLY gave one a day. I don't think there was ever one day that they didn't get one. Not saying that my kids were wonderful. just that they soon learned that good behavoiur is required in life. It also taught them that I loved them regardless of what they did. They never got paid for tasks they did -- allowance was given just to help them learn how to deal with money. When hubby lost his job their allowance was cut off as well (they were 8 & 10) to help them realize that as a family we support each other.

    I think I have gone way off topic here. Basic answer Yup we used a very simple chart that at 1st they used stickers then later used markers. THEY picked what needed to be on chart .. such as clear the table. Bed making etc no sticker since it wasjust part of what was required in our family.

    XYSRUS DIS Veteran

    Apr 2, 2006
    If you want to give and take away use something like marbles in a jar, pennies etc. How does one "take away " a sticker on a chart? It's too abstract. Give the kids something to see and feel. Good luck. Oh and like someone else said-no more than 2 things to work on at one time!
  8. Lizzy2

    Lizzy2 Disney freak-in-training

    Jul 3, 2006
    I made mine myself with supplies from the dollar store and my scrapbooking bag. My DD really flourishes with this method and we've used it twice once for potty training and now in Kinder. to reinforce good classroom behavior. It has taken her awhile to learn when to talk and not talk and getting a star on her chart seems to help her focus. She gets a trip to the Dollar store on Sunday if she has a good week. My SIL who is a child life specialist recommended this system and it really works for us.
    I was also going to say that I think this method basically teaches kids that good work get rewarded which is pretty much how life goes for grownups, most of the time anyway :rotfl: Some folks might say its bribary but I say you get paid for your job, right? My DD always says " Mom, I worked really hard to get my star today." And she did!
  9. Angela&Kayla

    Angela&Kayla Mouseketeer

    May 24, 2006
    Instead of using a sticker chart, you could use a pretty vase and colored marbles...that is what I did with my daughter when she was little and she really enjoyed putting a marble in when she did something above average. I did not give her marbles, however, for doing stuff she should do anyways, unless she did it, for example, without being told. Just be careful to not do this for too long, as you do not want your child to expect something (whether it be a sticker, marble, or treat) everything they do something good.
  10. i like stitch

    i like stitch I do believe

    Jun 22, 2004
    We used coins in a jar for a reward system when our DD was young. We tried taking coins away but that caused more problems as she is more motivated by reward than punishment.

    As she became older, we moved to a "star system" that she kept track of herself. We "gave" her a star and she'd draw it on a piece of paper attached to the refrigerator. When she collected a certain number of stars, then she was able to choose an activity (goofy golf, arcade trip, restaurant, etc). If she saved up a ton of stars, she could cash them in for money. It worked wonderfully!
  11. mytwotinks

    mytwotinks <font color=deeppink>It makes me feel better to kn

    Aug 28, 2004
    The marble jar works wonders at my house. We start with two jars, a happy jar and a sad jar. Each jar starts filled halfway with marbles and when we do something that makes God happy we move a sad marble to the happy jar and when we do something that makes God sad a happy marble goes in the sad jar. When all of the marbles are in the happy jar the whole family goes and does something special together.

    I got my method from the book that Lisa Welchel (Blair from the Facts of Life) wrote. Creative Corrections. It was an awesome book with tons of ideas. We also did a Bible study that I really enjoyed. Good Luck!!!
  12. TenThousandVolts

    TenThousandVolts <font color=darkcoral>I just gave 2 examples for t

    Feb 4, 2005
    If you use a big jar- ping pong balls make a bigger visual impact than marbles.

    I always used a sticker chart but I never took any away. My feeling was that my child earned each sticker for a positve behavior and doing something negative shouldn't cancel that out. Just my feelings- I dealt with negative behaviors differently and used the chart for rewards only.
    100 stickers on the chart earned a treat for the child.

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