3 days away and dont wannna go

[dana1003]

i know ,i sound crazy. but we just a blowout w/my parents where all these "secrets" came out and now everyone is real on edge. i was so looking forward to going (our kids first time) but now i dont even feel like going. i feel like there is going to be so much tension. we leave sun-should we cancel?

 

[pilgrimage]

So sorry. I can imagine your confusion and sorrow and anger now.
The "exposed secrets" will still be floating. Time away can be a great
healer for dealing with it. If your budget allows it, I vote to go.
I'd also suggest limiting your access by phone with the people causing
the chaos so the stress does not become ever-present while at Disney.

 

[kellia]

Are they going with you? If so, you might want to reconsider, but if not, definately go! What better way to take your mind off things?

 

[Pembo]

Disney has a way of making even the worst things look better. Go and enjoy the Disney peace. If you don't, you'll just sit home thinking things like "we would have been at the MK today."

 

[dana1003]

yes, they are coming w/us...everything is paid for, hotel ,plane, ddp, everyone took this as their vaction time..do i go and just try to have fun w/the kids and deal w/this when we get back?

 

[golden1]

I would have a heart to heart with your relatives and ask that we try to put the issues aside until after vacation.

 

[sgmom]

Is it possible to have separate itineraries (sp?) than your relatives to avoid tension? We are going as a large family and are planning to split up throughout the week. Maybe a couple of days apart at the most magical place on earth will bring some healing and togetherness.

Yes, make it for the kids! If they have known they are going, it may be so upsetting for them if you don't go! I know my DS7 would be so disappointed. We just told him on Thanksgiving and he does a countdown every day!

Make a pact before you leave that it's for the kids and there is no mention of what has happened! Hope it works out.

 

[all4fun]

Is it possible to have separate itineraries (sp?) than your relatives to avoid tension? We are going as a large family and are planning to split up throughout the week. Maybe a couple of days apart at the most magical place on earth will bring some healing and togetherness.

Yes, make it for the kids! If they have known they are going, it may be so upsetting for them if you don't go! I know my DS7 would be so disappointed. We just told him on Thanksgiving and he does a countdown every day!

Make a pact before you leave that it's for the kids and there is no mention of what has happened! Hope it works out.

I totally agree and I was actually going to suggest the same thing about having seperate itineraries - I would want that even if there was NO tension! I hope your time at DW allows you to take a break from the turmoil and hopefully you can go home with a fresh perspective on whatever has been happening.

 

[Gabby&Liv's Mommy]

I guess it really depends on how significant the secrets are. But generally, I would say go and enjoy. The World is a big enough place that you can be together on a vacation without having to be with each other every minute. Maybe some fun and laughter will help to mend things.

 

[Gabby&Liv's Mommy]

If it makes you feel any better, my parents did something last night in regards to my recently deceased grandmother’s estate which well, let’s just say, is greedy and not morally ok with me. She would be rolling over in her grave. Anyway, I was so upset last night I was beside myself. We are planning a trip to DW next year with my parents. I just kept telling my husband over and over last night that I was not going on the trip with them. Well, today a calmer more forgiving me has emerged. My kids deserve to have fun with their grandparents and my parents deserve to have fun with their grandkids. These are memories they will have for the rest of their lives.

I don’t know the severity of the secrets and every situation calls for a very tailored solution. That begin said, if your parents are generally good people and it is a healthy relationship for your kids to have, your kids and parents will appreciate it if you don’t let your issues with your parents interfere with the relationship between them.

 

[dana1003]

thanks everyone for your great advice...i feel better about his now...and yes they are good , generous and loving parents who at times can be a little selfish but i guess well can all be at times. i will go and try to enjoy myself. the kids deserve it and so do we.