20031011 - Chicago DIS Meet - A Fond Chicago Farewell to an AWESOME DISer--INDEXED

[Brisully]

I just wanted to thank everyone who are trying their hardest to make DG's last meet a fun one. You are all doing a super job!!!

No one wanted to step up to the plate to organize this final meet for DG, so I stepped up. I understand that there are people with commitments. Hell, I have missed DIS meets before due to family emergencies, work, and family comitments too. But I sure as hell didn't make other people feel bad because I couldn't make it. And I didn't "dictate" that a meet had to be at a certain place or time.

But you know what stinks even more?? This is Tricia's last meet in Chicago, and some of the people who she cares very much about, are fighting with each other, and are putting a dark cloud over the whole meet. To those people - Thanks a lot. Tricia is one of the kindest and most sincere people, who I have ever met, and this is just breaking her heart. I only hope that if I had to move away from all my friends, and have the possibility of my spouse leaving for the other side of the world for a year or two, that all my friends would get together one last time. I'm so glad that this meet will be her lasting impression of all of the "friends" she has made here.

 

[Dan Murphy]

 

[December99]

Sorry but I did speak to Tricia about me not being able to make it earlier today before I posted. Didn't know I had to let everyone know of my every waking moment. Didn't know I had to ruin the day by letting her know why, which I didn't. It was an up in the air thing anyway. So I'm just staying out of the whole mess. People apparently don't care for me to being with so I will see Tricia off on my own. That way no one has to see me or not go because I'm going to be there.

Sorry Tricia - but I was made to feel this whole thing was my fault. I did try to step up to the plate and then was told to not do what I had suggested - that was back when the thread was started in July after the last meet. So I backed off because it wasn't up to par with what others apparently wanted although I was trying to follow some suggestions that were given to me and since no one was really getting anything done then I tried and then was told not to. Then my aunt died and I decided it was too much for me to take on at the moment. And then Mike was diagnosed with a disease that we needed to get a handle and now our lives revolve around it. Sorry I was trying to get a handle on what was happening and was basically told I was the one that was telling everyone what to do so I tried to step away and came and knew what I would read. So beg my pardon!

No one wants me around so I won't be around. That way it will be much more enjoyable for her to be around people that want to be together and not around someone they don't want there. Just sorry people couldn't tell me it to me personally. I was trying my hardest. DG has been one of my best buds here as I thought others were. Because I'm hurting I don't feel it's nice to go and ruin someone else's day because I got hurt. It's NOT fair to Tricia and I recognize that. I guess I can't win here.

I was trying to get ahold of what was going to happen since it was getting close and another thing got dragged into it. And as usual I'm the ***** because I've put a damper on everyone. Sucks to be me! And I'm NOT asking and I DON'T want a ****ing pity party! JUST END IT! I made my apologies public because I was told I bothered several of you.

 

[Brisully]

If that's the way you feel, then that's fine Chris. If I see you on Saturday, great. If not, then maybe the next time. If there is a next time. You have to do what you need to do, and I don't have a problem with that.

 

[glo]

Not my board, so feel free to ignore anything I say here, but at this point this is not going anywhere, and posting isn't making anyone feel any better. Maybe everyone needs to step back and take a deep breathe. Please, remeber that this meet was set up to say goodbye to someone who has always been there for those who are not agreeing right now. For her, and only for her I think this needs to stop. Please, lets not make this goodbye harder than it has to be for a good friend. I live in Massachusetts, and I really did try hard to make this meet. I do not see eye to eye with some people at the meet, but for Tricia I would have done what was needed. Take a deep breath...step back and think...no one wants to leave friends and home like this. Think People......

 

[Big V]

I sure don't know what's going on here? I know I'll miss seeing you and Mike Chris. I hope you will change your mind.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

I do moderate this board along with NativeTxn and the purpose of this board is to organize meets and to post the pics from those meets here.. I see there are a lot of hurt feelings going on, but I think we need to keep in mind that this thread is to organize a farewell meet to a fellow Chicagoan, Tricia.....I am sure she appreciates all the effort put in by those organizing...and hopes you will all put your personal feelings aside and be there for her..

 

[Doctor P]

I feel I probably need to post here to make some things clear. First of all, I view this meet as an opportunity for Tricia's Chicago DIS friends to say a fond farewell, and as such I could/can put aside any other issues (whatever they might be) for the good of not losing that very key purpose. Even if Chris did not choose to come, the importance of being able to say goodbye to Tricia and to see our DIS friends would normally have been enough draw to have come alone to the DIS meet (as I have several times before). Unfortunately, I don't think I can make that happen and I feel terrible and guilty about that. I need to go on a three day business trip Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday, and I need to leave no later than 6:00 am on Sunday morning. Normally, that would be a minor bump in the road, but with my illness my life's planning has been turned somewhat upside down and this is the first overnight trip I have gone on (even for pleasure) since I was diagnosed. I found that I was beginning to feel stress regarding packing, planning for contingencies (including packing lots of things I have never packed before), and managing the need to eat the right things and exercise on a much more rigid basis than before. My family and friends are very, very important to me, and I was feeling very guilty about letting you all down by feeling that I might need to stay home from the DIS meet for my ultimate well being. I have now become convinced and comfortable with needing to stay home to take necessary care of myself. I hope my friends know that this is not any kind of personal statement or protest, and can respect my decision to do what I think I need to do for my long term health. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers. I care deeply about my DIS friends and value our friendships immensely. I hope we can get together in the near future and repeat the many fun times that we have had in the past. I very much look forward to that. It is highly unlikely that I will see you guys on Saturday, but if there is a chance for me to work it out, please know that it is important for me to do so. Thanks!

 

[Big V]

Sorry you can't make it to the meet Mike, but it's important to take care of yourself! We'll be leaving later this afternoon and are looking forward to seeing everyone tomorrow at 1:00!

 

[WDWLVR]

CAn't wait to see the pics everyone. Hope you got to see some of the game - it's been a good one!

 

[Mackey Mouse]

Me too.. we want pictures and I hope you all had a wonderful time... Good luck to Tricia..

 

[Dan Murphy]

Good time at the meet, however, no pictures taken that I can recall. Smaller than some of our big (okay, HUGE) meets here in the past, but that seems to be true of most meets around the country recently.

We all got together around 1 in the afternoon, finally broke up around 9 in the evening or so. A nice Fall day with friends, though sad a bit too, knowing Trish will be moving on from the area soon, but great reminiscing over some wonderful years we all have had together here in the Chicago area, knowing our friendships will continue on.

Sure seems a lot longer than just 4 years ago that Tricia was emailing me, shortly after her move here from Indiana, asking about things here in the Chicago area. Over the past few years, so many meets, so many new friends, so many laughs, a few tears thrown in along the way too. And all through this little place on the Net, the DIS. Thanks, Pete, for providing so many people the means and common link to have made many good friendships and casual acquaintances over the years, we do appreciate it. And thanks, Tricia, for being part of our lives these past years, looking forward to continued friendship, regardless where you and Jim should relocate. Again, good wishes follow you both. {{Hugs}}

 

[Mackey Mouse]

Nice post Dan... I am sure all that were there will be sad to say Tricia move on. I know she was an important part of your Chicago Family.. Hugs to her and Jim and those will miss them..