2 children but only one having a b-day at Disney

Honeybunches1994

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Okay, here's my problem--well question-
We will be at Disney for our dd 4th birthday--that will be wonderful for her but here is the problem--we don't want ds to feel "left out" b/c we couldn't be at Disney for his birthday. Has anyone else had this happen? We don't want to not celebrate dd birthday--we're eating at Chef Mickeys and we want to get her a Birthday Button. Am I just worring about nothing? This is our first trip and I want everyone to feel special and have a wonderful time.
Thanks
 
We had this happen to us as well. DD turned 8, and we went to Mickey & Minnie's Luau. Other DD was only 5. We didn't make a huge deal about it (although I stuck candles in the dessert), and we let her pick out one special present that day. She also got to pick what she wanted to do first that day - Dumbo!

My younger daughter never seemed to care that we didn't get to have her birthday down there, although we did designate one special day for her on our last trip, which was about a month before her birthday.

I think that if you keep the day low-key, and give your son a few choices to make him feel special too, you can have a great day for everyone! Definitely do a special dinner, but maybe skip the pin, since nearly every CM will probably comment on it? Or maybe just wear it to dinner? What if you ask your son how he feels about it - is he much older?

Another thing we did was to let younger DD pick out a special present to be saved for her birthday. It was fun to keep it put away until her party, and then remember the WDW fun we had picking it out!

Schmeck
 
We will have the same situation in 22 days. DD's 6th birthday and DS is 3 1/2. I have heard some people have a button made saying it is DS' "unbirthday" so they get to have something special too. I think our DS will be just young enough to not get too upset about his sister getting the attention. I'm thinking of making them "birthday" and "unbirthday" t-shirts to wear. We will also be bringing a couple presents along for her and will make sure that he has a few new toys as well (something small, though, because we don't want to go over our 50 lb. weight limit on the luggage!!!) DS birthday is in February and we doubt we'll ever get there during that month. I guess we'll try to make every day as special for him as possible too, with a few extra treats along the way. Hopefully, it won't be too big of an issue.
 
Thanks for some quick responses from people who have been there. BTW DS turned 7 in August so he's the oldest. Any more advice? Should we skip the button then?
Thanks
 

We were there for DD#3's 4th birthday in January. We did get her the birthday button and she did get loads of attention from the CMs - but they also made a big deal out of the fact that it was also her 3 sisters unbirthday . Everything that was done special for her, was also done for her sisters - from getting to ride up front on different rides to getting complimentary desserts.
 
Personally, unless you planned this trip as a birthday gift/celebration for your DD then I wouldn't make a big deal out of the fact that her birthday falls during your vacation. Maybe if you put yourself in a different setting it might change your perspective. Let's say you were vacationing at the beach on your DD's birthday. Would you have her wear a button so everyone knew or would you just celebrate it as a family?

I also have an issue with treating all siblings like the birthday child. Does this happen at home?
 
How about a "birthday" character breakfast and then the tea party at the GF where they have an "unbirthday" party with the mad hatter and Alice. My advice, skip the birthday pin or get a favorite character pin instead.
 
We are celebrating DD #6th bday with a princess breakfast at the castle. We are then celebrating DD #2's Unbirthday with Dinner at Chef Mickey's.

We did presents at home, so that wasn't an issue.

Good luck.

We didn't want the unbirthday kid to be upset. We will never be able to travel on her birthday because it is in March, and I'm a tax accountant.
 
We did DS5 birthday in May. DD7 didn't have a problem with it at all. She was just happy we were at WDW.
Siblings celebrate birthdays in different ways at home all the time. Why should this be different if DD's bday falls when you are at Disney.
I would definately go ahead and get a birthday button. It really isn't that big of a deal - it's not like DS was "the star of the show" all day. Out of the thousands of people at MK that day, only a handful actually wished him HB. Therefore it certainly didn't take away from DD's experience at all.
Believe me, everyone will feel special and have a good time. The fact that you will be celebrating DS's birthday is a bonus! I'm sure she will appreciate the birthday button as a souvenier of her 4th in years to come.
IMHO - yes, you are just worrying about nothing!
 
Our twins turned 5 at WDW last month. We had a character breakfast at CP that morning and all of the kids liked it. The other two are 8 and 11. The characters were great with all of the kids, not just the birthday boys! Pooh did sign Happy Birthday in their autograph books and they got a birthday card and cupcake but my older kids didn't feel left out.

We got them all the Guest of Honor Badges so alot of CM's talked to them and called them by name. We got the twins the birthday buttons also and throughout the day people would say "Hi, Happy Birthday Colton and Chase!"

My other kids had their own special birthdays at home with their friends and understood that this was their brothers' special day. I don't think I would have done anything different.

Have a great trip!
 
We had the exact same situation - DS turning 4 at disney and older son being 7. We did the button and did a character bkfst the morning of his b-day and told them. He was sung to and they made a big deal but my older son was more PROUD than upset. We were able to tell the 7 yr old that we had celebrated his 3rd b-day at disney but he couldn't really remember (which is true). I wouldn't worry about it too much - except for the brkfst and a few happy b-days we actually almost forgot until we got back to our room and had balloons and cake left for us. They left 2 balloons and we all shared the cake so no problems.
 
I really don't think this should be a problem. You don't have an "unbirthday" party for the other children if your celebrating at home. It just needs to be explained to them before hand. We took one our daughters for her Birthday and got the button and had a party at Chef Mickeys and she got an autoghraphed picture from Cinderella. My other DD just enjoyed being there. No jealosy. Just explain before you go and I think it should be okay.
 
How about have him wear a T-shirt that you had made with Celabrating my sisters BD and add the date.
 


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