*im not asking what everyone spends, thats personal and varies of course by person.* im curious how everyone comes up with their budget? this will be our first year that we really have to budget and i dont really know where to start. i have 3 kids, but i dont necessarily need to spend the exact amount on each, they dont know price of things yet. so do you figure out first how mnay things you want to buy them and go from there? do you first figure a dollar amount per kid and then borrow from one kid to the next? or do you have another way of doing it? and how about others? how do you decide, when youre on a budget, what is a good amount to get for extended family?