I would have no problem spending the money if she came. I am helping to pay for the wedding. I hate the thought of throwing away the $100.00 since I work so hard for it. I agree it should be none of my business about her financial problems, but she is the one whom is constantly moaning and groaning every time I talk to her. I am having medical problems, along with my husband, and spent over $5000 out of pocket last year. I didn't say a word until she cried that she had a $20.00 co-pay for her doctor visit. I don't want to hear how she has to go to the food pantry and put food back on the shelf because she can't afford it. Meanwhile, they just bought their 5th brand new tv, new IPAD, Keurig machine, 4 laptops, hot tub, 2 cars with every option, etc. in the past year. I guess that is what is irritating me and I need to know how to get over feeling this way. I tried to tell her nicely I did not want to talk about money, but she doesn't get it.