Would you go to the hospital?

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  1. tchrrx

    tchrrx <font color=red>Blame it on the plastic cow I ment

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    My sister is due with her first baby any time now. (First baby in our family...my DD was adopted) Sis is planning to call me when she goes into labor b/c she lives two hours away. DH thinks it is stupid that I'm planning on going to the hospital. He thinks that I should wait until she's at home. (I thought about this, but since Sis asked me to be there, I am definitely going.) Do you go to the hospital when a family member is having a baby?


    ETA: Was supposed to be a poll, but I forgot how to do that! :rotfl:
     
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  3. goofyintoronto

    goofyintoronto I really wanted to like it, but I didnt.

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    Definitely go to the hospital! Esp since your sis specifically asked you to be there. I did it for my sis and she did it for me. :)
     
  4. Acklander

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    I've always followed the rule of, what laboring mom wants, laboring mom gets. Im always thrilled and honored when invited to such an awesome event and wouldn't pass it up for anything else in the world :).
     
  5. MIGrandma

    MIGrandma Lives in the middle-of-the-mitten.

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    If my sister wanted me there I'd move heaven and earth to get there! :)

    Totally disagree with your Dh in thinking it's stupid. Your sister wants you there, you want to be there, make it happen. :)
     
  6. NikkiLovesWDW!

    NikkiLovesWDW! "Are you seeing an increase in lateral forces?" "S

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    I was in the room with my sister when my niece was born and cried my eyes out when she went into labor with her second and I had Back To School Night. So disappointed I couldn't be there. That's a little more than most people do but I think it's nice to go during visiting hours after the baby is born, at the very least.
     
  7. kidzmom3

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    Does your sister want you to wait in the waiting room for hours or does she plan to let you in the laboring room. If she just wants you to come and wait, you may be there 6-20 hrs....waiting. Especially with a first baby.

    I would need more info before I advised you on a course of action.
     
  8. DebbieB

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    When my first niece was born, we went when she was close to delivery. It was my brother's baby, we didn't go into the room while SIL was in labor, she was throwing up and we wanted to give her privacy. We were asked in after she delivered. When my second niece was born, we were watching the first one and she delivered in the middle of the night so we waited for morning to take my niece in to see her sister. When my nephew was born, it was my other brother's baby, his wife was having difficulty and they scheduled a c-section, we went to the hospital when we heard she was going to the operating room.
     
  9. Nolcrest

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    In my family, we do not go to the hospital during labor. After the baby is born, we would go for a visit to the hospital. We pretty much all live near enough to one another.

    If my sister specifically asked me to be there I would though.
     
  10. Poohforyou

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    Your sister wants you there and you're able to be there. Why is your dh even questioning this:confused3?
     
  11. zurgswife

    zurgswife WDW is my Shangrala...and I'm going...life is bett

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    If she requested it I definitely would be there.
     
  12. gemini2727

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  13. wdwmom0f3

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    If you dont go you will regret it forever and blame you husband for the rest of your married life. :rotfl2: He really just needs a pop over the head with a cast iron skillet! :laughing:

    Of course you should go! This should be a non issue, but God love him, men dont always think the way we do. ;)
     
  14. tchrrx

    tchrrx <font color=red>Blame it on the plastic cow I ment

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    :thumbsup2 I think that I may print your post out & hang it up for him to see. :rotfl: What is it with men & the way they think (uh.....don't think? :confused3) ;)
     
  15. Christine

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    Since your sister asked, I think you should go. Just make sure she's fully admitted before you leave your house to make the trip. I was sent home two times before they actually admitted me. I had a slow labor.
     
  16. luvsmickeymouse

    luvsmickeymouse Opt to Adopt!

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    Yes, I think you will regret it if you don't go. A close friend of mine asked me to go in with her and I thought I would be in the way so I didn't go and I have regretted it ever since. Especially since my own sister didn't ask me when she had her kids.
     
  17. disykat

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    I would only go if I was specifically asked. Even then I would feel unnecessary and would try to be very sensitive about making myself scarce so the mom and dad could have time alone unless for some reason the father wasn't able to be there.
     
  18. cluvsdisney

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    Word for word!!
     
  19. *JoGo*

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    You should go. She wants you there.

    I don't have a sister so I've never been asked. My SIL had c-sections and my brother/SIL don't have kids. My mom and dh was with me when my first was born. It was just me and dh with second, the dr barely made it.
     
  20. TotalDreamer

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    Yeah I think with hospitals it's always "acceptable" to go if the family member or close friend wants you there for whatever reason.

    I went when my aunt had her first baby and my sister in law had her sister and friends there (I don't know if they were there during labor, but soon after delivery at least).
     
  21. Becky2005

    Becky2005 <font color=darkorchid>I actually thought they mad

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    On the other hand, her sister asked her to come and she lives 2 hours away. My first was born 3 hours after I arrived at the hospital (and I only live at the most 30 minutes away from the hospital if there is a lot of traffic!).

    So...depending on what her sister is wanting (i.e. in the delivery room?) -- it might make most sense to call before going if it is something obvious like her water broke -- if that is the case, you know they are going to admit her.
     

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