Widowers/Widows and Disney

Time is flying by, and it is almost time for my first solo trip to Disneyworld. My main focus will be on the holiday celebrations that are going on, including the Christmas party at MK, gingerbread house at GF, Epcot's holidays around the world. Any other suggestions from anyone who's been there, done that?

I would love to share any of these activities with another solo (or two or three more).... so if you'd like to meet up for some holiday cheer anytime from 12/3 to 12/7 let me know.

Ann
 
I lost my husband to a car crash in August 2015. He was the best. I have 3 kids...ages 6, 8 and 12. Its rough! And it's not always a picnic for the kids. Since I've finally been a functioning human again for about a year, I've decided it's time to fulfill a wish and goal my hubby and I had to take the kids to disney. I SO wish that my best friend could be there to goof off and be a kid with me!
I'm kinda scared...I know it will be crazy juggling it all but I know itll be a blast for all of us. I'm hoping, since my middle child doesnt like roller coasters, that I will get to take my oldest on some. I'm sure I can put the other kids on and wait. (I really kinda want to go too! I've been researching stuff for kids to do for a couple hours so I can go with my oldest for at least a ride or 2.) I have to do this as "budget " as possible!! I've been digging through flights, value resorts, travel agents, etc for weeks.
We are from Montana, so we aren't really hot weather acclimated. So, I'm also kind of doing it last minute. (Trying to book the trip for march.)
It's kind of overwhelming! But life has dealt us a few tough breaks. Christmas without their dad again was hard. I think our little family deserves a fun bonding experience. Hopefully it doesnt me (or the kids of course) too hard that hes not there.
Anyway if anyone has any practical advice on juggling logistics of being the only (obviously crazy) adult joining 3 kids at wdw I'd love to hear it. I'd also appreciate any and all money saving advice!!
 
Do you have any relatives/Friends that would go with you?
 
Ah man I really wish I did. When my husband died I had to move because our house was owned by the ranch he worked for. All our friends were there and I havent really made any new friends. My mom has health problems. (She needs oxygen.) My brother and sister in law are expecting their first baby any day now (yay!!)....I wish I knew almost anyone lol.
I'm sure itll be great no matter what. I'm pretty used to compromise. I'm sure anyone on this thread knows all about that. I will just probably have to consider the thrill rides as most likely not going to happen. I'd they do, itll just be gravy :)
 
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I’m going to wdw next month with my 2 kids, and bringing one of my sisters along to help with them! We are staying at AoA and I’m really excited to go again. We went two years ago as a sort of “wish” trip for my husband (stage 4 colon cancer, he passed 6 months ago) and the trip was nice but also very stressful. I’m looking forward to enjoying the parks and resort this time, hopefully with less stress. Afterward, sister is flying home and we are going on a 7 night Disney Cruise!
 
[Agh, man. I'm SO sad :( The money that was supposed to go to our trip fell through. I made the mistake of disobeying a major parent in ng rule: Dont tell your kids anything about something fun until it's in the bag. Once I put the deposit down I was so sure it would all work. So now they're super bummed.
Well...if I'm lucky enough to be able to pull it all together, I'll take them to Disneyland this summer. At least Disneyland and Calif adventure is a lot closer. Only like a 2 day drive as opposed to a minimum of 4. So not having to fly may be enough of a money saver to make it do I can afford it.
I made the mistake of watching cool YouTube videos about pandora and the fun stuff at the resorts. They were even into watching dfb (disney food blog) which um a big fan of. Man, I'm just SO bummed. Sorry for the rant. I WILL be posting about our wdw visit someday. Maybe next year. :)
QUOTE="bringleb, post: 60153679, member: 638317"]Ah man I really wish I did. When my husband died I had to move because our house was owned by the ranch he worked for. All our friends were there and I havent really made any new friends. My mom has health problems. (She needs oxygen.) My brother and sister in law are expecting their first baby any day now (yay!!)....I wish I knew almost anyone lol.
I'm sure itll be great no matter what. I'm pretty used to compromise. I'm sure anyone on this thread knows all about that. I will just probably have to consider the thrill rides as most likely not going to happen. I'd they do, itll just be gravy :)[/QUOTE]
 
Still a widow and still making solo visits. My only wish would be that families with young children would not give me dirty looks when I'm in line for anything, especially characters. I would love to have my family around me, except that I don't have family and I doubt if I'm the only person in this position. Walt created the parks for everyone, it's as simple as that. He would welcome those who have lost their spouses with open arms as he would know that his parks bring us so much happiness.
 


Still a widow and still making solo visits. My only wish would be that families with young children would not give me dirty looks when I'm in line for anything, especially characters. I would love to have my family around me, except that I don't have family and I doubt if I'm the only person in this position. Walt created the parks for everyone, it's as simple as that. He would welcome those who have lost their spouses with open arms as he would know that his parks bring us so much happiness.

I am so sorry you feel targeted or singled out when you're traveling solo at Disney! That's really unfair and unfortunate, and I hope (like really, really hope!) that they aren't looking down on you. Maybe they're checking you out and wishing they could be you and not carting around a bunch of grouchy children and just jump in the single rider's line, and do whatever you want, whenever you want! (Hopefully without sounding insensitive to your wants and wishes there, just trying to be silly.) You definitely have every right to enjoy the parks just like anybody else!! :D
 
I can't believe I found this thread. My wife and I were planning on going to WDW last Nov. Two days before departure she was diagnosed with liver cancer! We spent our vacation week going to one appointment after another. She passed right after the holidays. Somehow through my fog of grief I remembered that the park passes were going to expire soon, so I played the "she would have wanted it that way" card and I went solo at the end of Jan. Bittersweet times infinity would be a good way to describe the experience.
 
My DH passed away March 23, 2018 from a sudden heart attack. I had been focused on my career and met him at age of 39. I had been married briefly at 23 and did not have children. I met DH and we instantly feel in love and were engaged and married. He had been a widower with a 23 yr old daughter that married the week before us. We were married 17 years and were looking forward to retirement. My DSD includes me in their lives. She has two wonderful boys that are now my life. Unfortunately, they dont care for disney

When Ronnie died, we had a trip planned for June. We loved going to WdW. That was our thing. I went. It had only been 2 months and i was not ready. It was a 3 night trip. I stayed at BLT with park view. I went to MK for about 2 hours and spent the remainder of my trip in my room. It was torture!.(BTW, yes they do check on you and insist on entering the room if you do not leave it for 2 days, lol). I left WDW thinking I have lost my love and Disney. I hVent been back yet, but i play old Disunplugged podcast all night. I cant sleep without the noise, and i feel safe listening to familar voices. Who would have ever thought that.

I am proud to say that this March, on the anniversary of his death, i will be boarding a disney bound plan. (I even bought first class). I will be staying a full week and i am actually looking forward to it. I know there will be some tough times and there will be tears, but i have had to do alot of things this past year outside my comfort zone. I have had to learn to navigate life differently instead of retreating to my bed and giving up. Wish me luck!
 
Good for you, dbt! Like you, my first trip back was too soon, but I'm sure that with time the sweet will outweigh the bitter. Since my last post I found enough airline miles in my wife's account for another trip! I think I'll make another run at it next fall.
 
My DH passed in 2010. DD was 9.
He enjoyed disney, but was happy to let us go by ourselves to DLR (lived in CA). He would go to our WDW trips though and enjoyed those parks much more.
We went to DLR about 3 months after he died. Was bittersweet, harder than we thought, especially the pool as that was DH/DD thing to do together.

9 years later we’ve been to DLR and WDW at least a dozen times and numerous other trips. (We love to travel) It does get easier, though sometimes little moments and memories will sneak up on us.
We have learned to cherish those moments and continue to make new memories.
 
This is an old thread that I stumbled upon while looking for some advice. In January I lost my DH of 50 years after a 6 week illness.

Thanks to all of you who shared your experiences.
So sorry for your loss my DH passed away in June of 2023 after five your battle with cancer, Disney was our life. I am right now my first solo trip and it’s sad but a great way to honor him. I hope to meet fellow Disney friends to make future trips.
 
my hubby Nebo (trip report writer) passed away september 2022. He had been sickly/disabled for about 5 years. we used to go to WDW twice a year, getting three trips out of one annual pass. last few years we didn't have passes and went once a year. I am so happy I was able to take him one last time in May. French Quarter was included in room discounts. He just loved Disney, even if we didn't last long in the parks. not quite ready to go back yet, but when I do it would be great to meet up with other dissers. smidgy
 
My wife passed away suddenly in October 2022. She loved Disney (could sing every song) and we frequently visited WDW. She was Hawaiian, was always trying to get her to stop in Adventure land and start singing Moana just to see if people would line up for a M&G lol

Taking first solo trip to DL over July 4 mainly for Roger's.
 
I just found this thread. My DH passed away suddenly in Sept 2021. We honeymooned at Disney in 1976. We brought our kids several times. Then as empty nesters we went once a year in May. Our last trip together in May 2021 was great. I went back in Oct 2022 with my sons and grandkids. It was bittersweet and I cried on rides he loved. Now I have a solo trip planned for this Fall. Not sure how it will go but reading this thread gives me hope.
 
I just found this thread. My DH passed away suddenly in Sept 2021. We honeymooned at Disney in 1976. We brought our kids several times. Then as empty nesters we went once a year in May. Our last trip together in May 2021 was great. I went back in Oct 2022 with my sons and grandkids. It was bittersweet and I cried on rides he loved. Now I have a solo trip planned for this Fall. Not sure how it will go but reading this thread gives me hope.
Let me try and tell this quickly. After years of traveling with my wife and children, plus escorting some people that otherwise wouldn't have been able to go, my wife left without any warning. After 29 years that I thought was going along well, she just decided she didn't want to be married anymore. I won't go into what was going on at the time except to say, it wasn't someone else, and not any scandal on either side.

Anyway, my kids were both married by then and I was in a bad place anyway and that was just one more thing piled on. I think it was then shortly into the first year after the divorce was final that I took a solo trip to WDW. I have to admit that when I first got there I found myself just sitting on a bench (when they had them) and thinking about all those wonderful family times at WDW. Talk about your pity party, it was full bore. I thought about just going someplace else where the memories weren't quite so strong, but then remembered that WDW was my happy place. A place where I could put my problems on a shelf and just enjoy the place.

So, there I was on the bench and I remembered the Carousel of Progress. An attraction that we went to on our very first trip. At the time the song was "The best time of your life", and it was indeed. Since then the song was changed to "Great big beautiful tomorrow". I went on the ride and suddenly it struck me that I didn't want to sit around the rest of my life as if it were over and started to think that if I made some changes in my life now I could have that beautiful tomorrow too. I have made at least 16 solo trips to WDW, one to Disneyland and one to Disneyland Paris since then. Right now the system, charges and my health have pretty much cut out that line of enjoyment and am down to quieter things now. (drat)

I went out after that and re-did all that rides and shows that were connected to family and just made them mine and a change for new albeit different types of memory's that centered around me alone. I chatted with kids and their families while in queues and saw how amazed they were that I was riding alone (quote) "At my age".

I went home at the end of my trip and changed a lot of thing including my job, my outlook and in return got a new hope for my future. I've been pretty much flying high ever since then. Now I cannot guarantee that you would have the same result but remember that life does indeed go on and we have to take our enjoyment wherever we can, while we can and what better place was there than WDW..
 
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@goofyernmost Thank you for your story. I am hoping that having had a family trip to WDW after DH passed before I do a solo trip will give me some peace. I have no plans for the trip other than to wander around and find what I want to do at that moment. I am sure DH will be with me in spirit and cheering me on. He loved Disney too and we had alot of fun together and as a family. Now I have to make new memories.
 
my hubby Nebo (trip report writer) passed away september 2022. He had been sickly/disabled for about 5 years. we used to go to WDW twice a year, getting three trips out of one annual pass. last few years we didn't have passes and went once a year. I am so happy I was able to take him one last time in May. French Quarter was included in room discounts. He just loved Disney, even if we didn't last long in the parks. not quite ready to go back yet, but when I do it would be great to meet up with other dissers. smidgy
My condolences Smidgy. Loved reading Nebo’s trip reports. I remember whe he forgot his bag and you had to go back home to pick it up. I wanted to cry for you. PM me if you are ever in the world the first week of November if you would like to meet up. Would love to hear more Nebo stories.
 

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