Exactly on point! I have gained and lost and gained again. I wasn't always this way. I didn't start gaining until after Christian was born. I am currently very overweight and I hate it. I hate being hungry ALL the time. I mean all the time. I even dream about eating and shopping for food. I know why I eat. I'd had therapy. Didn't help with eating, although it has helped in other areas. I have a lot of depression and anxiety. I bite my nails to the point that I no longer have nails; the nailbeds are totally exposed. I hate the way I look but frankly, even if I lost 40-lbs I would still be fat. I will never look normal.
I have considered getting gastric bypass. I would qualify. But I'm scared. Scared I'll die, scared I will switch addictions, sad that I will no longer be able to eat comfort foods. I am eating myself to death and I can't seem to stop it.
I find your attitude flippant and condescending. You obviously have no idea. Eating whole foods and nothing more--BTDT. I spent 2 years on a medically supervised weight loss program, seeing my bariatric specialist every week. I lost about 50-lbs and I still hated my body. I have never felt so deprived in my life and once the depression set it, it was over. I have regained about 40-lbs and I'm having a very hard time getting motivated to get back on that train.
Perhaps you could attend a few 12-step meetings. Doesn't matter if it's AA, NA, CA or OA. It's all addiction and it's EXTREMELY hard to break it. You might gain some insight.