Poohforyou
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It's a cute outfit but if you're trying to impress your boyfriend's conservative family I'd go with something different. I think what you chose is just a little too much for where you're going.
You look beautiful and should wear exactly what you would like. However if your goal truly is to not stand out then I personally would choose a different look for the wedding. In a nutshell, your look is very urban, IMO. I know because I live in an urban area in the PNW. Your outfit would look perfect here, including the ink!
But for what you've described as your goal I would pick a color other than black and something with more coverage on top. I would also go for nude or black shoes, depending on the dress. The coverage would be for modesty and also to deflect attention from your tattoo. Otherwise the tattoo will be the first thing everyone notices about you. That can be fine. But if you really want to blend in more, then I would dress more conservatively.
OP, is there someone from the area that you could ask? You don't want to stick out but you also need to be comfortable and be 'you', ykwim?
This is a much more classic and elegant look than the dress in the OP. Very beautiful.Well, don't know if it matters, but I wore this dress to another wedding in Tulsa last year:
No one said anything or made any comments, beyond telling me I looked pretty. The guests at that one ranged from prom-dress type outfits, to very similar to mine, to jeans and plaid shirts, lol.
Honestly I think it's the shoes that are throwing me off more than the dress. They're so...flashy, lol. That, and when we were at a work picnic for him last summer, one of the women there was wearing a pretty hi-low and several other women said she looked "skanky" or "****ty" so that hemline has me a bit concerned too. (i've never worn one before)
DB was able to get a cell signal for a bit, so I texted him a pic. He said he loved it.
I wasn't really asking about my tattoos...just the dress/shoe combo. Yes, I want people to have a good impression of me, but not to the point that I'm going to wear a sweater everywhere go in case someone doesn't like ink. It's part of me, who I am, and I like them. I didn't spend all that money to hide them away. For what it's worth, DB also has several.
Country club wedding in the Bible Belt?
I'm guessing that while this would be great to wear to a wedding in Manhattan, you're courting trouble in Tulsa OK with black & strapless.
If you buy some kind of shrug in a color other than black (since your shoes are purple I'd go with that) and if you keep it on all night you'd probably be OK.
Google "purple shrugs"...there are quite a number to choose from.
mrsklamc said:Yes, I have been to Tulsa and wasn't thinking it was a backwater- I stand by my statement that someone will be judgy about the ink.
It sounds like you have made up your mind, so just go with it. If you are arguing why you should wear it, that means that you want to wear it. So, go with it. You don't need a bunch of strangers on the internet's permission.Thanks for the continued responses!
Just to clarify once more, I'm not seeking opinions on my tattoos and whether or not they should be covered. To cover my tattoos, I would literally have to wear a long-sleeved turtleneck and pants or a floor length skirt. I've met these people, they all know me. All his siblings as well as mom, dad, and step-mom are facebook friends. They all know I have them, they've all seen them...no point in covering them. I love them, DB loves them. Yes, I have a lot of ink but that doesn't mean I have to dress like a nun to still be classy.
I'm just looking for opinions on the combination of dress and shoe. I agree with a PP about the ankle strap combined with the hemline...it looks, I don't know, just off.
The other dress, in my opinion, is actually less "refined". It's skin tight and shows a lot of chest. (not to mention, the sequins scratch my arms, lol) The new dress is loser and covers me up top.