Discussion in 'Community Board' started by PrincessKsMom, Jun 17, 2013.
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No school can guarantee safety. I am a police dispatcher and I work in a building with security doors, video cameras, and blast proof glass... with armed officers all over..... but no one can guarantee my safety even here. Although our schools SHOULD be safe, no one can guarantee they are. And just because one person's ex caused a lockdown, there is no way to guarantee that getting rid of that person is going to eliminate all threats. There may be other employees with potentially violent spouses too. You just never know.
Trying not to get points. Teachings and expectations for others, yet they are not holding themselves to the same standards.
It can be, but that is often easier said than done. Someone needs to pick up the costs if it is an uninvolved third party, and courts in my area seem loathe to do that if both parents are financially stressed. And if an involved third party is used no-shows, other obligations, and the biases of that person tend to muck things up.
Of course it doesn't eliminate all threats but it got rid of one definite one!
How many of that 1% have committed domestic abuse?
How many of that fraction of 1% have shown up at their spouse's place of work?
How many of that fraction caused a lock down?
Happily, there's no one in my extended family or friends in jail.
Exactly. And that's hardly unique to schools... Try having a boyfriend show up at your place of work to start an argument while you're waiting tables or ringing up customers at the mall and see how long you keep that job. BTDT - my crazy ex cost me a great waitressing job when I was in college because he just couldn't leave well enough alone. And my employer didn't have the very valid concern for the wellbeing of dozens of children, just the desire to maintain an atmosphere that wouldn't drive customers away.
I totally disagree. I do not believe, they are being hypocritical.
Did Charlesworth do everything right? If so, then the court system and law enforcement failed her, not the school. The ex has a long history of violence, but she has four children with him. Regardless, the relationship with the abuser is ongoing. I think, the latest incident was simply the last straw. The school has an obligation to protect their staff and students.
I asked my DH how he would react if this happened at our DGD's school. His reaction was teh same as my reaction. Feel badly about the teacher, but if she stayed, DGD leaves. I asked my DD, and hers was a little more liberal than ours. She said that her first reaction was nto to pull her DD> She is not really sure, it is hypothetical for us, but she was less prone to take her DD out of school.
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