Victim of Domestic Abuse Fired

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  1. PrincessKsMom

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  3. JaneBanks

    JaneBanks Lime Cordial, delicious! Laughing on the ceiling

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    At first I was suspicious of the school but then I thought about it and I could see where they are coming from.

    I think they are trying to prevent another school tragedy, like a shooting. What if her ex was so angry and came and shot his children then his ex-wife, then her class? He already had the balls to violate the order once.

    If that is why they did it, I totally get it. I feel for her and her children but the school has a bigger responsibility.
     
  4. tinatark

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    I don't know that the school could have handled it differently - they have to protect the children first.
     
  5. tigercat

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    So much for the Catholic church helping and supporting it's members. So much comfort and help was given to her by the church...NOT. Sounds like she has everyone turning their backs on her and her kids. Maybe that's why so many abuse victims stay with their abusers.
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  6. chirurgeon

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    So if you have chosen to be a teacher you better make sure you keep your domestic violence private and just suck it up. How man teachers are now going to stay in an abusive relationship for fear of losing their job? How many are going to be another statistic? There are other ways to handle this. Move schools and keep it private. Make sure they are informed by law enforcement when her fine upstanding ex is released. Somehow I think the divorce played a factor. They just aren't saying it.
     
  7. Hoodie

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    I agree with this.

    And if anything it shows how pathetic a "restraining order" actually is. If someone wants to ignore it they can.
     
  8. Angelhalo

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    I feel bad for her.

    I completely understand what the school was thinking and how they came to their decision.

    However, this is a religious school and I feel like they owe her better support. I'm not sure exactly what should have happened, but it isn't very Christian to just turn someone away without offering to help them in some way.

    Such a shame all around.
     
  9. Stitchfans

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    My thoughts exactly. It is like she is being punished for being abused. It is like they are saying it is all her fault and she deserved it. Now she and her children have to suffer even more. IMO it is all wrong.
     
  10. Robinrs

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    They've proven themselves hypocrites many times before. :mad:
     
  11. DizBelle

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    What would people say if they let her return and her ex came to the school and other kids got hurt?
     
  12. allison443

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    I think that's what was behind the decision, not trying to blame or punish this woman. But just look at the protective parenting threads on the dis. I could definitely see parents not wanting their kids in this teacher's classroom, for example. Maybe they were already getting feedback from other parents, who knows. Especially after the school shooting in Newtown. I do think maybe there is some other way they could have handled it. I'm sure someone on this thread will come up with something.
     
  13. wiigirl

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    Thats true....
     
  14. Stitchfans

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    The first thought that entered my head was that he should have been arrested by now and put away were he can not hurt her or anyone else ever again. Now chances are this woman and her children will end up going to a domestic violence place to seek shelter and safety since she can no longer support her family.
     
  15. Arielle22

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    Why would she want to continue working there when he knows where she and the children are? If I was her I would take the time he was in jail and move to a different city, maybe even change my name and my children's names.

    I don't see this as an overreaction. The ex actually came to the school and caused it to go into lockdown. To me, that says he won't stop when he gets out again.

    I was going to say something about the Catholic remarks on this thread but realized that would probably get me points.
     
  16. EMAW_KSU

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    They have to start sometime.
     
  17. FlightlessDuck

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    I don't agree with this at all. The woman is the victim here. The husband should be locked up.

    The school should already have security in place to keep people out. Firing the teacher won't keep other crazies from hurting kids if their security stinks.

    This is ridiculous.

    I would seriously like to see what Pope Francis's reaction to this would be.
     
  18. PrincessKsMom

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    I believe the article said he's already incarcerated but the school feels they won't know when he's released. I'm still torn. As a parent I can see being frightened. But this woman should not be victimized twice. Shouldn't the school and community be rallying around her and supporting her? I agree restraining orders are a joke. And let's not forget her children are now ostracized from their school and, I'm sure, community.
     
  19. ColoradoDisneyFreaks

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    So exactly what do all of you expect the school to do? Continue to employ this woman and willfully endanger the other students and staff at this school? That's going to open the school and the church up to lawsuits from parents that have a good chance of winning.

    It's unfortunate, but the school has a greater responsibility to the rest of its students and staff to protect them from a known danger.
     
  20. Bojo

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    It is truly a shame that the "system" has failed this mother as well as her children.

    I wonder how many people who are criticizing the school would actually pay to send their own children to a school where they know that a domestic abuser may show up and possibly do harm to staff and/or students there?
     
  21. Hoodie

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    It says she was put on administrative leave and then let go. My guess is that the adminsitration heard from the parents and their own lawyers.

    If my child was at the school, I'd be asking for her removal as well. The guy already showed up once. It's awful she has to deal with this, but when her personal problems, no matter what they are, create a threat for my kids, my kids come first.
     

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