I'm not saying the Aunt is faultless. But I'm saying if she is getting on in years, and this is something she has looked forward to for a long time, then the OP should be the bigger person. Sometimes that is what you do for family members. Not play tit for tat. I did this, now you do that. And it could very well be that the OP would regret her actions if she tells her Aunt she is not welcome. I think you are right though. If so many people don't treasure or honor their older family members, it is going to be a sad time in this country. What happened to having respect for your elders? It is pretty sad that an Aunt wanting to include themselves in a family trip equals them expecting someone to bow down to them. I really get the feeling that many of you don't love and treasure any family members outside of your own immediate family. If you aren't a husband or wife or child you don't count for much. And that is very sad.