WARNING---Dumb questions to follow!!!! We have decided to include a unity candle in our ceremony. DS, Df and I will all participate. I am wondering if the 3 taper candles are lit prior to ceremony starting and then we together light the pillar? Also I am having trouble finding what I want....has anyone made there own? Not the candle ( I am the least crafty person in the world!!) but a saying to go on the candle? Is there special paper available to do this on?