Great TR so far! We leave for our first ever cruise in 18 days and will be on the Dream in 19 days! We are doing the 4 night Bahama cruise then three nights at Shades of Green and in WDW (then our military tx are blacked out for spring break
). Interested to hear all you have to tell in comparison to other cruise lines.
If only I had more than one RCCL cruise to compare it to.
I'm so jealous of your FOUR day...so much more time than just the 3!
I do love the textiles! Thank you.
How is your MIL? I have been meaning to ask for a while.
Oh gracious Michele...
Almost the instant we were gone, she guilted the heck out of her oldest son and ended up with her car again. Now...has she had a stroke since October? No. But...did they ever figure out WHY she had all those strokes? No. Can anyone say that whatever caused the strokes has stopped? Oh heck no. Does she have a vastly higher chance of having another stroke at ANY time than other people? OH yes indeedy. Does she care? NO.
We've pieced it together, and it was pretty much the INSTANT we were in the plane when she called Paul to continue her campaign, knowing that we weren't available for him to call or text.
We have gone from being so scared and worried for her, to "if she wants to be so independent that she manipulates everyone and everything to get exactly what she wants, she can, but she's an adult and our pocketbooks are CLOSED to her now". She wants to drive? OK, she can call the insurance company and get it off suspension. I'll be changing her insurance paperwork so that it goes to her now if she's that independent. She can make her own appointments (and she is). She can get her own robo-calls for her appointments (that will be changing soon). She can do everything we/I have been doing for her, if she is SO independent that she is going to do just about the MOST responsible thing an adult can do, which is drive a vehicle.
We are just so angry. But sad angry. No one's happy to be angry with her. Honestly, we are all starting the mourning process. For her as well as anyone she might take out with her, if she has another stroke while driving. And the worst thing is there is NOTHING on earth we can do. Not one little tiny thing to keep her off the road.
No doctor will say "don't drive", although they were doing their best to say that. But a doctor says "we don't know the medical reasons for this, so there's no solid reason preventing you from driving, but I do think it's a great idea to NOT drive", and she hears "no reason preventing you from driving". And the instant we were (or really, me, because she KNOWS perfectly well that it was me who kept that car from her all this time, being the backbone for Robert and his brother (who had custody of it)) gone she got on that phone.
Not a thing we can do. If only there were. She's having some sort of issue right now, some medical thing involving embarrassing sorts of doctors, and I know this ONLY because I'm getting the appointment calls, but she hasn't put me down as someone who they can talk to and she's not talking to us. I wouldn't be at all surprised to find out she had another TIA/mini stroke and forgot even more that I am the one to trust, I am the one that will tell the doctors all about everything AND understand what they are saying, that above any one of her children or their partners, I'm the one she could lean on most.
And with her memory problems (short AND long term at the same time, which I know because I know her and can read her), I know perfectly well that she would NOT pass the driving test right now. So all I can hope is that her license is up for renewal soon and that they spring the written or driving test on her. Every doctor suggested that she retake those tests, but she never heard that...
Eamon was around when we found out about her driving, and he heard me on the phone with her doctors trying to figure who said what to her (IF they said it)...and he is BEYOND sad about it all. He said that he wishes he didn't have a grandma now, because he's so afraid of her having a stroke while driving and killing some other innocent person. It's just awful.
She has had everyone do everything for her since the moment she moved to the US (and even before, her mother raised my BIL until they moved here), and now that she's in a position where she NEEDS to have someone chauffeur her around, she's refusing to let it happen. I cannot comprehend it at all.
Driving will be the first thing I drop if anything like this ever happens to me. Especially if I don't ever figure out why it's happening. And if it all goes quiet, IF my care team says it's OK, then I'll do OT to relearn how to drive, make sure I CAN drive, I'll retake driving tests until I know 100% that I'm OK. And then maybe I'll do it. She's done none of that. I don't even know if she took her insurance off suspension.
Ain't ya glad you asked? Before the car thing, the answer would have been "all is quiet, but I wouldn't be surprised if she has had a few tiny strokes without telling anyone from how she acts, and I'm having a heck of a time getting her GP and neurologist to speak with each other to try to get her off of coumadin and onto plavix!"