Teen's First Cruise

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  1. flipflops42

    flipflops42 Earning My Ears

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    DS (14) and I are taking a trip together on Disney Fantasy on July 21st to celebrate this new journey into high school. :woohoo: I know he loves me, but I know he doesn't want to hang out with mom 24/7. He has never cruised before; and I want him to have a great trip. Any suggestions?

    (I am very protective and I am trying to loosen up) I know that Vibe is safe and monitored. However, would you let your teen wander the ship alone?
     
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  3. outahere

    outahere DIS Veteran

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    At that age kids are allowed to come and go as they please, without having to sign out, so it will be up to you what he can/cannot do. By the time our son was 14 he had been on several DCL cruises, so we had no problem letting go where he wanted. HOWEVER...... he had to let us know where he was going and with whom (if anyone). He liked to hang out on the sports deck and play basketball, which was fine with us.
     
  4. lady9

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    Some tips:
    1. Make sure he goes to the Vibe planning time on the first night. The time will be in the Navigator, usually around 10pm. The kids get together, do a little mixer/get to know you and then plan activities for the cruise. My DS was 15 on our last cruise and made his friends for the cruise that night.

    2. Each stateroom has Wave phones that can call or txt. Our DS had to txt whenever he changed locations so we knew where he was. It was quick and simple. We trust our DS but we did pop in from time to time to make sure he was where he said he was, pool, movies, etc.

    3. We make a rule that no one, kids included, is allowed in our stateroom, and he is definitely not allowed in anyone else's stateroom, even for a minute.
    Enjoy!
     
  5. outahere

    outahere DIS Veteran

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    That has been one of our rules as well, and strictly enforced.

    I'm going to miss cruising with our DS when he was younger..... our upcoming August cruise on the Dream will be his first since he turned 18 and can go anywhere on the ship. We do have reservations for his first brunch and dinner at Palo and we can't wait to share it with him.

    To flipflops42...... enjoy your cruise and try not to over plan (been there, done that, not doing it any more). Take things as they come and enjoy your time with your DS. They grow up WAY too fast!
     
  6. Princess Row

    Princess Row His Disney girl!

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    I went on th magic when I was 14. My mom gave me a walkie talkie and I was required to respond whenever necessary. I also had a rule I had to be back every single night on time for dinner.
    There really isn't anything took terrible he can be doing. I usually came back to the room before 4-5 am. As long as mom had a way to reach me she let me be out.
    I am now 17 so she completely doesn't care what I do on the ships, and our cruise next week I don't have to have a walkie talkie.
     
  7. WDWJonasGirl

    WDWJonasGirl Mouseketeer/Directioner

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    On my last cruise, my curfew was 11:00. I would call them and sometimes, I would be with the characters
     
  8. wdwnuts

    wdwnuts Earning My Ears

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    Your DS is going to have a blast. The WAVE phones really help to keep in touch with teens. The VIBE has many activities for the teens. Last year, on most days, I would not see my DD until we were getting ready for supper. We are going on the same cruise as you and DD is so excited. I agree with going to the VIBE on the first night so your son can meet people. After a year, my DD still talks to a girl she met their last cruise. Teens who go to VIBE get different Keys To The World cards so try to go by on the afternoon on embarkation days so your DS can get his card. Teens need this card to get in the club. Hope to see you there.
     
  9. danfromca

    danfromca <font color=royalblue>Earned his ears, now wants y

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    It depends on your teen and your own tolerance for risk.

    My teen walks (and skates) to and from school, to shops and otherwise all around the neighborhood alone. I figure the Fantasy is at least as safe (and probably safer) than here, so yes, he has run of the ship. I don't even worry about curfew unless it's early wakeup the next day (due to an excursion - he can stay up late with friends the last night) . I don't even make him take a Wave phone - he knows to show up in time to change for dinner.

    Now I admit, I was raised in a different era. It wasn't any less dangerous than today's world, but you didn't have the media scaring you 24x7, so we kids could pretty much go anywhere we could reach by foot or bike. I was allowed to wander Disneyland for a few hours with just one friend when we were 7. So I probably fall on the more liberal side in terms of letting teens go where they want and trusting them to use their own good sense and judgement - and deal with cases when they don't use good sense and judgement.

    For example: I was on a cruise with a few teens and one of them (14) brilliantly decided that playing basketball barefoot was a good idea. It wasn't, and he hurt his foot. I found out about it when I bumped into them coming back from the medical center where they had gone to get it fixed up.

    My annoyance with him over not wearing shoes was more than offset by my pride that he had the good sense to get treatment, and the self-confidence and initiative to deal with the situation on his own with the help of friends.

    I suspect the medical staff felt the same way, because the visit never showed up on our bill :-)
     
  10. WDWJonasGirl

    WDWJonasGirl Mouseketeer/Directioner

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    Your DD was pretty much like me last time. With the exception of ports, meals, and shows, I was gone alot. I was either there or seeing characters. I was on an Alaskan cruise so there was one days I was gone for 6 hours. I did have a curfew though. I met a girl that I still keep in touch with. We will not be on the same cruise this time. :sad2: The girl's cruise is right after mine, same port.
     
  11. ewinme

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    Does your cruise have a group forming in the meet and greet forum? If so you can see if there are kids his age going and he can maybe meet a few before even going.

    I also second the comment about making sure he attends the vibe meet and greet.

    Enjoy your cruise
     
  12. WeAreGoofyforDisney

    WeAreGoofyforDisney Earning My Ears

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    We've cruised with our two girls as well, and the oldest is the same age as your son. On the last cruise she was given the wave phone and in the beginning of the cruise if she and her friends left the place they hung out in, we asked her to let us know. She did a great job of keeping in touch with us, so we gave her more latitude to hang out later. Towards the end, sometimes she came home more than an hour before curfew, because she and her friends were all tired. They keep them busy!

    The rules re rooms are great. Our eldest still keeps in touch with her friends from last years' cruise.
     
  13. WDWJonasGirl

    WDWJonasGirl Mouseketeer/Directioner

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    What time is the meet and greet?
     
  14. noahsmom

    noahsmom 2002 - Poly & Wonder; 2004 - Poly & Wonder; 2006 -

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    My DS is also 14 and will enter high school this fall. We are on the same cruise. DS is very excited about Vibe, last year when we were on Dream he was 13 so went to Edge. He was able to move about the ship on his own but he had to let us know where he was. Our wave phones were hit and miss, so he had to go back to our stateroom and leave us a note on where he would be. It worked for us.
     
  15. lmhall2000

    lmhall2000 May the road rise to meet you....May God hold you

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    You guys need to join your cruise's meet...many times the teens on the ship start their own Facebook page so the kids can get to know each other....my kids love it! I know this s mother son trip but if you can afford it, think about inviting a close friend of his...we did this for my son and they had a blast! Maybe they will offer kids sail free and it'll be free for the friend! :)
     
  16. noahsmom

    noahsmom 2002 - Poly & Wonder; 2004 - Poly & Wonder; 2006 -

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    I started your meet thread, the last time I checked it though there wasn't any activity. It was before the facebook page was started. I have requested to join the FB group. This is cruise is part 2 of a back to back adventure for us. We are very excited.
     
  17. WDWJonasGirl

    WDWJonasGirl Mouseketeer/Directioner

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    Does anyone know what time the meet and greet is? I'm going on a five night.
     
  18. Lollipop's Mom

    Lollipop's Mom <font color=teal>Special trip with your little one

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    I haven't read all of the other posts (no time sorry!)
    But my daughter and I have cruised a LOT since she was about 8 yrs old. She always has had ground rules, which have gotten lighter with age.

    Basically my rule now (she is 16) is go, have fun - don't cause any loud noise/chaos, etc... around the ship (she isn't that type anyway). Keep the wave phone on you, check it every hour for msgs from me, I expect you at dinner with me, dressed nicely -you know where to be. At night she has to return to our room after the teen club closes. If she wants to do more things with friends after that time, she still has to come by or call me, say where she will be and who she will be with. Then she usually comes back to the room no later than 2-3am.
    But if we have an excursion the next day early, she has to be back by 1am.

    My daughter is EXTREMELY social and ends up with a large group of those very social teens.
    We check out the navigator for things we want to do together and make plans "Ok we want to do the mickey 200 - see you there at 11...", etc... we spend quite a bit of time together, but as a single mom, it is also a nice break for me to just sit somewhere quiet and read and know she is off having a fabulous time!
     
  19. WDWJonasGirl

    WDWJonasGirl Mouseketeer/Directioner

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    I was like your DD last time. My parents gave me a curfew since we had late dinner seating. I was with my friends and/or characters with the exception of meals, shows, ports, etc then I had to be with my family.
     
  20. mstinson14

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    Hi! I'm 15 and have been on ten Disney cruises. The ship is very safe and the vibe is extremely fun!! I love the vibe! My mom can barely pull me out. I hope your son has tons of fun, I'm sure he will. I have made many life long friends on my cruises. :)
     
  21. DMMarla07860

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    if your talking about a meet and greet that is planned for some cruises you have to go to your cruises thread and ask someone, if your talking about a meet and greet for teens usually that first night in the teen club:goodvibes
     

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