Spinoff of "Too Young to be Married"

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  1. Pooh67_68

    Pooh67_68 <font color=teal>My head looked like a brillo pad<

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    No one said we were too young, heck on my side i was just following along with all the ones before me. (i was 19, dh was 20)

    However they were all taking bets on how long it would last. :rolleyes: They all lost, we will be married for 27 years May 3rd.
     
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  3. disykat

    disykat DIS Veteran

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    While it's obvious you had issues with your inlaws, actually, without it being personal about a specific relationship, I think many people make this offer to their kids. For many families unmarried = financial support through college. We like our son's girlfriend just fine, but I don't think she likes us very much based on this. Thankfully she knows that in our case it has nothing to do with her.
     
  4. tigercat

    tigercat <font color=magenta>Cook, clean and foot massage.

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    Pooh you and I were alike. Both sides were taking bets on how long the marriage was going to last for. They all lost as we just celebrated 38 yrs. I was 18 and we had been seeing each other for 15 months at the time of our wedding. His mother had been vocal about us not getting married although it was really directed at me not my dh. My side was not happy but they did put on the wedding, although nothing was the way I wanted it. When I got pregnant shortly after (1st dd born 14 months after the wedding) she was really not happy. When we told her the good news she almost cried and was VERY vocal about how she felt (only to me again though).
    tigercat
     
  5. Buckalew11

    Buckalew11 2013 1/2 Marathon Finisher!!! Woohoo!!

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    I believe our best man gave us 5 years and my mom bet 3 (either that or 7 and 5?). Who takes bets on a non-celebrity marriage?;)
     
  6. MamaLema

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    Yes, I was warned by every single family member because of my age (20) and because are an interracial couple.

    My mother actually didn't talk to me for a year:(

    18 years later, and 3 kids later, I am the only one in my entire family not divorced. Not only that, but everybody loves my husband. Sometimes they call and don't even want to talk to me, they want to talk to him.

    My mother and DH are BFFs:rotfl:
     
  7. powellrj

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    No, but now that I have grown children, I can't believe nobody tried to stop me!

    I was 18 and had just finished my first year of college, DH was 22 and just graduated from college. We were both working part-time jobs. We had been dating since my jr. year in HS and had gotten engaged at my HS graduation.

    We have been married almost 35 years, so it has lasted, but if my kids came to me at our ages, without full-time jobs, I think I would try really hard to try to make them wait. Both of our boys are in their 20's. Our oldest is married, but he was 25 and had already been to Iraq, and married a girl from HS, so I really didn't see a problem. Our middle DS is 22 and will graduate from college soon, but swears he will never get married and just be the next Hugh Hefner (that thought scares me!), so that leaves DD who is 16. She shows no interest in getting married anytime soon and has big college plans, so I don't think she will take my path.

    As someone now middle aged, I keep thinking what were they thinking?!?!? Why DIDN'T anyone try to talk me out of it!
     
  8. donac

    donac <font color=black>BL6 Black Team Captain<br><font

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    A week before our wedding my mother told me that she didn't think we would last and there would be nothing but heartache. We were 23 and both had full time jobs teaching math.

    This Aug we will celebrate 35 years. I know she really appreciated dh now.
     
  9. worm761

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    My MIL told DH that it was disloyal of him to marry me. We have issues.

    We have not been married long. Almost 8 months. But we have been together for almost 7 years. We just decided to make it legal and wanted a specific date last year. It means something to us.
     
  10. java

    java <font color=darkorchid>I am embracing the Turkey B

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    Does the limo driver count? He was a friend of mine. As we got to the church, my Dad got out. The driver told me he could take me down to Florida right then. Told me I was too young to be getting married. But I got out of the limo and got married anyway.:rotfl2:
     
  11. PigletsPal2

    PigletsPal2 Queen of the Realm

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    None of our family members or friends expressed any doubts (at least out loud to us!), I think because DH and I had known each other since I was three and he was five. He lived down the street from me and I was friends with his sister (a year younger than I) long before he and I became a couple.

    However, the pastor of our church, who had only been there for a year or so, thought we were too young and suggested that we wait until we knew each other better. When we told him that we had known each other for 15 years (at that point), he just sighed and said "Well, I guess you know each other as well as you're going to without getting married!" (Remember, this was 1966!) That was the end of our pre-marital counseling.

    Still going strong after 52 years as a couple, 47 married.

    Queen Colleen
     
  12. rhanditresmom

    rhanditresmom <font color=red>Apparantly I play for the Washingt

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    My mom wasn't exactly encouraging. She told DH I tend to attach myself to whoever is essentially "handy.". We've been married for 22 years. I think it was more than "attachment".
     
  13. diznee25

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    Not that anyone 'warned' us, but both our parents were shocked, I think, with how quickly our relationship advanced.

    Started dating in April 2001. Moved in together 8 weeks later. Five months later we were engaged on Nov. 17th 2001. Then we slowed way down......and married Dec. 2003.

    Both our parents were disapproving with how quickly our relationship moved in the beginning, but by the time we were engaged, they were complaining about our long engagement! :scared: Can't seem to please family no matter what you do. lol

    So anyway, here we are. Been together overall for 12 years, married for 9. :cloud9:
     
  14. Katy Belle

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    Strangely, no. I was 20, DH was 24. We had dated 5 years. DH had a masters degree and had worked a full year by the time we got married. I was in college. We had kind of been an "old married couple" for a while. We have been married nearly 24 years!
     
  15. MIGrandma

    MIGrandma Lives in the middle-of-the-mitten.

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    One of DH's cousins said she would give our marriage a year. They actually had a $100 bet on it. We're at 37 years now...and she has never paid up.
     
  16. ORMom2Four

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    Dh and I married when I was 19 and he was 21.

    I don't remember anyone warning me not to get married so young.

    We celebrated our 20th anniversary this past October :)
     

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