So very sad- should I go to Disney anyway??

Discussion in 'Disney for Adults and Solo Travelers' started by Lizboo, Nov 16, 2012.

  1. Lizboo

    Lizboo DIS Veteran

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    I just sent you a PM...did you get it?
     
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  3. Lizboo

    Lizboo DIS Veteran

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    awesome!!
     
  4. IndianaJuls

    IndianaJuls Earning My Ears

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    Got your message - PMing you back with my info. I hope we can all connect. That would be awesome!

    Actually, I still can't PM - will email you, thanks!
     
  5. Disneyandphilliesfan

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    Good to see a happy ending .:thumbsup2
     
  6. Lizboo

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    I'm here. Yesterday was brutal. I got an upgrade on the plane because I was crying. I was nervous about everything but I made it here. And cried a lot. He is still at home so I can't really cry there. I made up for it .

    I was weepy this morning but forced myself out the door and went to DTD before heading to Epcot. I didn't want to ride anything because everything reminds me of him. I'm back at the resort and going to the pool but I am debating skipping MVMCP.

    I did sit next to a great couple at Le Cellist and they made me feel less lonely. I smiled at other guests and took pictures for Tami,is. I resisted the urge to throw things at happy couples. Lol
     
  7. Karlzmom

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    Sorry you are going through this. If I were at WDW solo I would totally do a spa day.....its the ultimate in just for you/hard to do when you have to work around someone else....but that's just me.

    I hope you have pixie dust along the way. Don't forget the beauty of the single rider line!
     
  8. Lizboo

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    ooohhh spa good idea....tomorrow I have a tour and then a quick stop at AK and dinner with Julie and EMH at Epcot...busy day...but could work on Saturday indeed. Great idea
     
  9. quigs3

    quigs3 Winds in the east, mist comin' in, like somethin'

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    Please know that you have tons of DISers with you in spirit and sending you good thoughts and pixie dust. You have a rough road ahead, but you are obviously a very strong and courageous person. You will be alright, even though it doesn't necessarily feel like it right now. As hard as starting this next chapter of your life will be, I can't imagine beginning it any better than at Disney. I wish you all the best!
     
  10. Lizboo

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    that is very sweet. Thank you
     
  11. dominiondad

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    Nothing to add to the great advise so far, just wanted to let you know that another person is out here rooting for you. I've been in your shoes - 16 years of marriage then a bombshell. You'll have bad days and you'll have good days, but eventually the good outnumber the bad. Keep your chin up and enjoy your trip!
     
  12. wdwmama19

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    I am so sorry that happened to you. I have a similar situation. My soon to be ex-DH texted me a few days before Thanksgiving and said it was over. He is in another state for work and had been for months. He still hasn't called me. We have an almost 15 month old DD so this has been hard but my family is taking me to Disney to cheer me up. I hope you are enjoying your trip and that you can find some happiness while you are down there like I hope to. :)
     
  13. Disneyandphilliesfan

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    Wow some harsh men out there.Its sad what they do to there wives.But life is too short to stop your life have fun and maybe one day you will meet a great man.I could share stories with you but whats the point.
     
  14. spiceycat

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    Lizboo - so sorry this happened.

    Life is every changing - go to MVMCP - you might have fun!

    or you might laugh at all the silly people.

    try people watching you might be surprised at what others do and say at WDW.

    gave up on men in my 30's and have never been happier. most of friends who were married are divorced now - many gave up success careers to make their husband's happy - now some are having a hard time.

    have brothers and do love them - but all the men I have meet never seem to grow up. they think of them first and everyone after, even those with families.

    so good luck - I am getting to Disney when you are leaving - so can't give you a hug in person - but :hug:
     
  15. hawaiian mickey

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    aloha,
    Don't give up on all men. There will be someone will who appreciates you.
    My wife dropped a big bombshell on me. I have no idea why either. Most of her friends and cousin don't even understand why. We were married for 25 years.
    We were going to WDW Dec 12 and cruising on the Fantasy Dec 15. She say's she does want to go in Feb after I took her to Tokyo Disneyland for her birthday. That's when she drop the bombshell. I found a friend to go with me but now she can't go.
    So I'm soloing this trip.
    I'm not going to let these event make me sad. Just the opposite I'll be getting stronger with the help of my family and the Disney life.
    Life will get better I know it. An it will get better for you with God's help and your families love and support.

    aloha,
    hawaiian mickey
     
  16. loveshak22

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    I'm so sorry you have to go through this but good for you to keep on living and enjoying life! It's good to give yourself the time to cry when you need to cry...it's a good cleansing for your soul.

    Remember - you are strong and your life will go on without your ex-DH and it will still be a great life with friends, family, love, and of course WDW! It will be hard for a while but the old cliche is often true - what doesn't kill us makes us stronger!

    I wish I was at WDW right now because I'd love to enjoy a dinner at LeCellier with you :rotfl:
     
  17. loveshak22

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    Are you serious? He texted you that it was over? I'm not saying this is your relationship but even if your relationship was the worst ever you still deserve more than a text! What a coward! I'd drive to whatever state he was in, knock on the door, say 'seriously, a text!', and then kick him in his baby maker :headache:

    I'm sorry for what you are going through but it sounds like you have a great family for support!
     
  18. joeyrose

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    i do have experience and this is exremely sound advice. disney will always be there, but your home, money, and stuff may not be there when you get back. do not underestimate what your "dh" can do to you if you are not taking care of business and yourself.

    when it's over, it's over, regardless of how it hurts. take care of yourself!

    addendum: i now have read more closely and see you went on. hope all is well on your trip and when you return. you are not alone, many of us have been left after many years and oftentimes many years of self-sacrifice. spiceycat has it right.
     
  19. SpaceMTN79

    SpaceMTN79 Earning My Ears

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    I don't know you, but after reading this thread I am incredibly proud of you for sticking to your guns and going on this trip. When you asked the question of if you should go or not, I struggled with saying yes or no. The reason being is WDW is so loved by my wife and I, we have so many great memories together there. I can't think of anyone I'd rather spend that time with.

    I thought to myself, if I were in your shoes I wouldn't go, everything there would remind me of her and how happy we were. But the more I thought about it, I convinced myself that yes, I would go. To me this would be a major turning point, by going on this trip it would be like starting a new life, your post marriage life now and how great the future will be for you.

    This is a new beginning, I hope you had a great time!
     
  20. Irishman

    Irishman Earning My Ears

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    WOW alll...I am new to this..Just became a member here last month.Ok..Single Dad of 1 ( boy)..Divorced for a few years now.Only see my son every other weekend ETC....This past summer we finally were able to take a trip.Orlando..Two days before I left.My girl friend " only reason you are not taking me is you are going to cheat on me".Well did not know how to take it.Angry,hurt??...I went.Guess what we had a blast.Met people from all over.Goofied around laughed like hell...Guess what "I don't need her.big world out there and disney made me laugh..So now I am in love...Belive I am going to head down myself Jan& feb.......SOLO.....THANKS ALL
     
  21. Pooh2

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    OP, you sounds like a courageous and strong lady! Hope your trip was the beginning of healing! Merry Christmas!
     

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