Sad, sad news about my daughter, Hilary. EDITED WITH PICTURES AND WEBSITE

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  1. CDoobee

    CDoobee <font color=teal>I'll never grow up!!<br><font col

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    Sad, sad news about my daughter, Hilary, known as Hilside on the DIS.


    This is too hard for me to say, so I will just copy and send messages my sister Marcia, and Hilary's husband Tom wrote:


    Message #1

    Today our sweet Hilary went to heaven to be with the Lord. She was critically ill for a long time now and has been in alot of pain. Her Grandma and Grandpa went this last weekend to visit with her and were able to read to her and hold her hands. It was her choice not to be on a ventilator anymore as she did not want to live the rest of her life like that. Tom and Hilary had discussed it at great length. Please pray for our family.

    Message #2
    Subject: (sharing a message from Tom Williams)
    Date: Tue, 16 May 2006 21:00:17 -0500

    My wife, Hilary, has been in the hospital for some time. It's a really long story but it has a very short and sad ending.

    I won't go into the whole story except to say that she had been on a
    ventilator for some 40 odd days, which is much longer than people are
    usually on the machine. She had been on and off of it over the past
    three months. Last week she worked really really hard to get off of
    it. Friday, they removed the ventilator. She was breathing on her own.
    She was doing really good throughout the weekend. Yesterday, she
    started to develop problems. She was getting in a good amount of
    oxygen, her saturation level was at 100%, but she was not expelling
    carbon dioxide. Her body basically just wore out. She had been on the
    ventilator so long. I was given the option of putting her back on the
    ventilator, knowing that she would never be able to come off of it, or
    make her as comfortable as possible and allow her to pass. She knew
    what staying off of it meant, but she elected to stay off of it. I
    didn't want to lose her, but I love her too much to force my wishes on
    her. They made her as comfortable as she could possibly be. She held
    on for a long time. Today at roughly 5:20 PM EDT she passed on. I love
    her, I miss her, I most certainly didn't want her to go. She will
    always be in my heart. I just thought I should let everyone know.

    Tom

    And this is from my father:

    Hilary's obituary may be viewed by clicking on the website address below. Please be sure to sign the guest book.

    Charles Newton


    http://www.legacy.com/postgazette/Obituaries.asp?Page=Notice&PersonID=17803302

    This is at Hil and Tom's wedding, 8/19/01. Along with Hilary and Tom are me, my DH Kevin, and my DS Jared and DD Katelyn. [​IMG]
    This is Hil and Tom in October 2005, when she came to St. Louis to surprise a friend at his wedding.
    [​IMG]

    Here is the link to Hil's Place: You have to copy and paste. Clicking the link doesn't work, for some reason.
    http://hilwilliams.home.comcast.ne[/B]t/


    Hilary posted on the DIS as Hilside. I'm not sure which board she frequented the most.
     
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  3. luvmydogs

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    From the bottom of my heart, please accept my most heartfelt sympathies on the loss of your beloved Hilary. May God give you and yours strength and peace at what must be such a terribly difficult time.

    You and your family are in my prayers. I am so very, very sorry. :grouphug:
     
  4. RitaZ.

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    Oh Debbie, I'm so sorry. :guilty: My thoughts and prayers are with your entire family. :grouphug: :grouphug:
     
  5. AuntieM03

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    :grouphug: I'm so sorry for your loss.
     
  6. The Mystery Machine

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    I am very sorry for your loss. {HUGS}
     
  7. raammartin

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    :hug: to you. I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss.
     
  8. agnes!

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    I am so sorry for your loss.

    agnes!
     
  9. j's m

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    I am so sorry for your loss.
     
  10. DisneyAddict_M

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    I am so sorry. :hug:
     
  11. mom23boys

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    I am so sorry for your loss. :grouphug:
     
  12. LoraJ

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    So sorry for your loss! :grouphug:
     
  13. chibichibirei

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    :grouphug: I am so so so sorry for your loss! :hug: :(
     
  14. BelleBeautyandtheBeast

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    :sad1: :sad1: :sad1:

    I'm sorry for your loss.
     
  15. gradtchr

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    I am so so sorry. :angel:
     
  16. becka

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    I am so sorry for your loss. We had the pleasure of meeting you and Hillary at the St. Louis DIS meet a few years ago. I only met her for a very short time but she seemed like such a wonderfully sweet person with a great spirit. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you but please know that you and your family are in our prayers.
     
  17. birdiesunshine

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    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
     
  18. chicagodisneyfan

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    My deepest sympathy on your loss.
     
  19. lucas

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    I am so sorry.....

    :grouphug:
     
  20. Serena

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    I'm sorry.
     
  21. luvflorida

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    Please accept my deepest sympathy for the loss of your daughter, Hilary. Thoughts, prayers, and lots of :grouphug: are being sent to you and your family.
     

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