Sad, sad news about my daughter, Hilary, known as Hilside on the DIS. This is too hard for me to say, so I will just copy and send messages my sister Marcia, and Hilary's husband Tom wrote: Message #1 Today our sweet Hilary went to heaven to be with the Lord. She was critically ill for a long time now and has been in alot of pain. Her Grandma and Grandpa went this last weekend to visit with her and were able to read to her and hold her hands. It was her choice not to be on a ventilator anymore as she did not want to live the rest of her life like that. Tom and Hilary had discussed it at great length. Please pray for our family. Message #2 Subject: (sharing a message from Tom Williams) Date: Tue, 16 May 2006 21:00:17 -0500 My wife, Hilary, has been in the hospital for some time. It's a really long story but it has a very short and sad ending. I won't go into the whole story except to say that she had been on a ventilator for some 40 odd days, which is much longer than people are usually on the machine. She had been on and off of it over the past three months. Last week she worked really really hard to get off of it. Friday, they removed the ventilator. She was breathing on her own. She was doing really good throughout the weekend. Yesterday, she started to develop problems. She was getting in a good amount of oxygen, her saturation level was at 100%, but she was not expelling carbon dioxide. Her body basically just wore out. She had been on the ventilator so long. I was given the option of putting her back on the ventilator, knowing that she would never be able to come off of it, or make her as comfortable as possible and allow her to pass. She knew what staying off of it meant, but she elected to stay off of it. I didn't want to lose her, but I love her too much to force my wishes on her. They made her as comfortable as she could possibly be. She held on for a long time. Today at roughly 5:20 PM EDT she passed on. I love her, I miss her, I most certainly didn't want her to go. She will always be in my heart. I just thought I should let everyone know. Tom And this is from my father: Hilary's obituary may be viewed by clicking on the website address below. Please be sure to sign the guest book. Charles Newton http://www.legacy.com/postgazette/Obituaries.asp?Page=Notice&PersonID=17803302 This is at Hil and Tom's wedding, 8/19/01. Along with Hilary and Tom are me, my DH Kevin, and my DS Jared and DD Katelyn. This is Hil and Tom in October 2005, when she came to St. Louis to surprise a friend at his wedding. Here is the link to Hil's Place: You have to copy and paste. Clicking the link doesn't work, for some reason. http://hilwilliams.home.comcast.ne[/B]t/ Hilary posted on the DIS as Hilside. I'm not sure which board she frequented the most.