Thank you so much for the Marine reserve idea. He just got home last week and we haven't spoken much about those plans because we're having our first baby and that's been our main topic of conversation for the last week. He loves the Marines, but the civilian job offer would work better for the kind of family life we want. And it's in the field he's been studying for for so long. And I just wanted to add that I didn't try to convince him to leave. It was his idea after a lot of thought. His grandmother threw that at me and I was shocked, she's such a nice lady but she seemed annoyed with me until my DH spoke up. She comes from a military family and is a very proud supporter of our troops. Thank you all for your advice and kindness!