Oh, I'm perfectly willing to let my child go over to a house that has a nanny supervising! I completely understand that lifestyle choice and I know these women would not trust their children with just anyone. I have had a hard time fitting in with these moms. I grew up in a fairly wealthy family, but my parents chose to send me to public school to avoid things like this, so I'm new to private school entirely. My husband on the other hand, went to private schools his entire life, including the one my son attends now. I figured my husband's "alumni status" would help curb this problem, but I guess not Perhaps the whole play date issue is laziness on my part, but with a two year old having intense temper tantrums, the whole thing just seems overwhelming at the moment. I will however definitely take your suggestion and talk to the teacher. I'm sure she'll have some good suggestions And Hannathy, I do not know who the "scholarship kids" are, but as far as I can tell, there aren't any in my child's class. Trust me, I'd much rather befriend those moms and have my son befriend those children than the ones in the PTA.