Is anyone dealing with a family member with a personality disorder? I am pretty sure my brother has one and it is making our family life rough. He lives at home with my parents at 43. He is a loner and really only has a couple of friends. I don't want to say too much but one particular disorder fits my brother to a tee. The last couple of years he has been blaming DH and I for being "mean" to him. For example if we go to dinner at my parents he stays in the basement till dinner. He comes up, eats dinner and then goes back to the basement. He has become so upset saying that DH and I are ignoring him. He says we need to grow up and we are just problems. I don't know how long he has been thinking this but my parents are agreeing with him. Or I should say enabling. I have tried to talk with my mother but she thinks he is just shy. Everyone I know asks me if he has a personality disorder. How do you get someone help if they think they are fine? Most of our extended family think he has a problem. He is not even talking with DH and I right now. My mother thinks he is shy and my father is just ignoring the situation. Meanwhile DH and I are the bad guys and my parents are agreeing. Any suggestions would be helpful.