I know this is OT, but this board has wonderful advice. Yesterday DD9 was assigned her teacher for 4th grade next year, and she was assigned the one teacher (out of 8) that she really didn't want. She's heard from other kids that this teacher is mean and strict. I've also heard from other parents that she's difficult to deal with and odd. Our neighbor is a teacher in the school and has said this particular teacher should have retired years ago, and that she wouldn't want her son assigned to her (her son is the same age as DD - I don't know who he has been assigned to yet). DD broke down into tears when she learned who she had. I wanted to bring her for ice cream after school to celebrate the last day, but she was too upset to go. This is unusual behavior for DD, who normally is a strong person and a leader in the classroom etc. She did, however, seem to get over it pretty quick and we haven't discussed it since yesterday. Now the dilemma - do my DH and I interfere? Do we see how things go once school starts? I've been told it's much easier to change assignments in the summer than once school begins, but it also nearly takes an act of God to change at all. I tend to think we should let her be and see how things go. My cousin's DD had this person and didn't like her at first, but liked her toward the end of the year. I plan to quiz my cousin and his DW about their experiences with this woman. DD has never met this teacher and doesn't even know what she looks like, so I had the talk with her about not judging people until she's met them. I also haven't spilled any of my own insecurities about this situation over to DD. I'm trying to remain neutral as far as DD's concerned. Has anyone else been in this situation and how did you handle it? I'd appreciate any advice anyone has. Thanks!