All summer long, I have been getting hit with the most ridiculous (in my opinion) invitations celebrating events with really, really tacky request. Unfortunately they've been coming from family members so I'm stuck with these boozos (sorry) My cousin daughter (we are very close as my entire family grew up in the same borough-Manhattan) is turning 16 and is having a huge blowout. Not only that she sent out invites asking in lieu of a gift please give cash to help purchase a new car. EXCUSE ME!!! Of course what ticked me off, I told her mom (my cousin) I'd kick in to her college fund she said, I can't afford to send that girl to college? Nice. When did turning a year older become a reason for a national holiday? Another relative had a "shower" for her college bound daughter, complete with registry at Bed, bath & beyond. Let me say up front, I'm over 50. so I'm not use to this. When I grew up. No one had major celebrations 'cause a kid graduated from kindergarten. Graduating from H.S. got you a party. It was considered the minimum that you had to do to be a functioning member of society. Not a reason for the pope to come over. No way were we going to ask for a car for a gift. Going to college was the thing that actually made you special. After you graduate people expected you to get a job, not fund your 1 week trip to Mexico. Help!