What do you do with 15 y/o who is too pretty and too smart but refuses to do any work in school? I mean she litterally failed all three years of middle school. I convinced them to hold her back in 7th but now she will be 16 in a month and she is freshman and shows no sign of even attempting to do any work in school. I think I'm a good parent I have told all my kids how important an education is and that if they want to go to college they will have to earn scholarship because I am a paycheck to paycheck person and I will not be able to help them. My son is 19 and has been on his own without any help from me since he was 18. This one is a girl and I am really scared to death for her. She just doesn't do any of the assignments so she fails. It's not because she tries and doesn't get it. She simply does not do anything, last year not even the in-class assignments. I'm really upset because she was supposed to go to cheerleading practice (pop warner - she didn't make the High School team) tonight and called me at work to see if she could go to a local HS sporting event tonight. I told her if she called her coach and she said it was okay, she could go. I just got a call from the team mom who said that they were specifically told not to go to this event, that they were needed in practice for competition. DH is on his way to pick her up and keep her home, but I am really at my wits end. What do you do with your teenagers that just refuse to take any responsibility for themselves? I have tried the grounding route but it hasn't worked so well. Any advice, even critisisim, is welcome because I do not know what to do!