tinkarooni
<font color=teal>Gets way too excited about saving
- Joined
- Jan 22, 2006
FaLaLaLaLa...Tis the season to try and figure out how to deal with the in-laws.
I think that everybody has this problem to some extent. Heres what we do. I'm married 13 years. When I married into this family they all bought for each other (adults) than everybody started having kids. I spread around that we should just buy for kids. Everybody accepted that. We set a $25.00 limit. per gift. We haven't raised it with inflation either. That's darn plenty in my opinion, there are 8 kids so far and than we always buy for parents. So a couple of years ago my SIL (whose husband ran off and left her with three kids so she moved in and mooches off of her widowed mother) decided that she was going to start an adult exchange picking names. Minimum of $50.00 per gift. . That's each, so with DH and I it was costing us $100.00. The worst part is it was just a gift card exchange. I hate that. Everybody wrote down three places they wanted gift cards from. We did it two years and than said no more.
Here's my warning....they call us cheap all the time. And not necessarily behind our backs, sometimes right to our faces. I wouldn't start this unless you're able to deal with whatever their responses may be.
And someday I will be sending my kids to college. My SIL had better hope her widowed mother has some money stuffed in her mattress because with all I see her spending (three vacations this summer including a cruise) her THREE kids will never get there.
Oh my gosh....I guess I just let out a little rant myself. Sorry.
I think that everybody has this problem to some extent. Heres what we do. I'm married 13 years. When I married into this family they all bought for each other (adults) than everybody started having kids. I spread around that we should just buy for kids. Everybody accepted that. We set a $25.00 limit. per gift. We haven't raised it with inflation either. That's darn plenty in my opinion, there are 8 kids so far and than we always buy for parents. So a couple of years ago my SIL (whose husband ran off and left her with three kids so she moved in and mooches off of her widowed mother) decided that she was going to start an adult exchange picking names. Minimum of $50.00 per gift. . That's each, so with DH and I it was costing us $100.00. The worst part is it was just a gift card exchange. I hate that. Everybody wrote down three places they wanted gift cards from. We did it two years and than said no more.
Here's my warning....they call us cheap all the time. And not necessarily behind our backs, sometimes right to our faces. I wouldn't start this unless you're able to deal with whatever their responses may be.
And someday I will be sending my kids to college. My SIL had better hope her widowed mother has some money stuffed in her mattress because with all I see her spending (three vacations this summer including a cruise) her THREE kids will never get there.
Oh my gosh....I guess I just let out a little rant myself. Sorry.