Has anyone ever told their in-laws (boyfriend of 13 years) and extended family that they don't want to do christmas anymore? They have no idea who I am and want a list, like we are 5 of something. We end up spending a fortune and usually get crap in return. It's like we are just trading money. Now I LOVE christmas! I start buying gifts around July. I think about what they other person would want. I listen to conversations and hear what they say they like, but I am a size XXL girl and get Mediums for t-shirts. My boyfriend and I haven't been on a vacation together since 1999 and really want to go to Disney World in January. If we don't do the usual Christmas gift swap that will save us around $600 this December. That will pay for our airfare and rental car. The problem is I just don't know how to bring it up. I know I need to do it soon, because if we are still exchanging gifts I need to start now!