YukiPhnx
The Minnie to my Mickey
- Joined
- Jan 20, 2009
7. Wedding Updates
And now it's time for some wedding updates! I've only been engaged for a little over 3 months but the wedding industry expects you to have a lot done already.
When I was looking for venues, 11 months out, I found that almost all the venues in Toronto had been booked up for my date 14 months out. Why do people book so early??? It's because of these people that everyone else also has to book early if they want to get a place they like.
Fortunately, we were able to find a country club that met all of our criteria. It's actually a club Andrew's family used be members of! So it was really lucky for us that he remembered it. So we have our venue booked at the Richmond Hill country club. I'll put up some pictures in another post.
I've started dress shopping, only cause I was itching to try on wedding dresses. My thoughts? I don't want a wedding dress. The wedding dress industry expects me to shell out hundreds of dollars and look down on me when I tell them my budget. I mean, I'm only going to wear this dress for about 7 hours! I'd rather spend hundreds on something I'll wear again and again.
According to Chinese tradition, I'm supposed to have about 4-5 wardrobe changes DURING DINNER. I've cut that down to just 2. I'm really excited about getting my custom "chipao", a traditional red Chinese dress. My mom said I had to wait to get married before I could have one.
Just this weekend, we started our gift registry. We are telling everyone we'd MUCH RATHER they contribute money instead of a gift because we'll be moving to China right after we get married so money would be most helpful. BUT, we understand we'll have guests that are uncomfortable with that so we created a registry just for them. There are actually cash registries online where people can contribute to specific experiences. I've listed my Disneymoon as one of them.
This is one thing no one ever tells you. Registering for gifts is STRESSFUL. Especially when you have a fiance that really could care less and a mother that cares TOO much. We DID impress our consultant though, when the BOTH of us whipped out a notebook to take down notes about our registry. She said she's never ever seen the groom whip anything out, let alone write anything down. Hooray for more involved Andrew!
I think that's the one thing I've stressed over and over in the wedding planning. This is OUR wedding, not just MY wedding. I'm really tired of the society that expects the bride to do all the work and BE OK WITH IT. I'm not ok with taking on this enormous task by myself. I'm not the only one getting wedding-ed. Also, when we were registering, she insisted that she take down the bride's information as the contact person. It's on the form and everything! I said I thought that was kind of sexist and that I would like Andrew's name. I mean, what if there ARE no brides? What if it were two men registering? Ok, I'll get off my horse....
More updates to come!
And now it's time for some wedding updates! I've only been engaged for a little over 3 months but the wedding industry expects you to have a lot done already.
When I was looking for venues, 11 months out, I found that almost all the venues in Toronto had been booked up for my date 14 months out. Why do people book so early??? It's because of these people that everyone else also has to book early if they want to get a place they like.
Fortunately, we were able to find a country club that met all of our criteria. It's actually a club Andrew's family used be members of! So it was really lucky for us that he remembered it. So we have our venue booked at the Richmond Hill country club. I'll put up some pictures in another post.
I've started dress shopping, only cause I was itching to try on wedding dresses. My thoughts? I don't want a wedding dress. The wedding dress industry expects me to shell out hundreds of dollars and look down on me when I tell them my budget. I mean, I'm only going to wear this dress for about 7 hours! I'd rather spend hundreds on something I'll wear again and again.
According to Chinese tradition, I'm supposed to have about 4-5 wardrobe changes DURING DINNER. I've cut that down to just 2. I'm really excited about getting my custom "chipao", a traditional red Chinese dress. My mom said I had to wait to get married before I could have one.
Just this weekend, we started our gift registry. We are telling everyone we'd MUCH RATHER they contribute money instead of a gift because we'll be moving to China right after we get married so money would be most helpful. BUT, we understand we'll have guests that are uncomfortable with that so we created a registry just for them. There are actually cash registries online where people can contribute to specific experiences. I've listed my Disneymoon as one of them.
This is one thing no one ever tells you. Registering for gifts is STRESSFUL. Especially when you have a fiance that really could care less and a mother that cares TOO much. We DID impress our consultant though, when the BOTH of us whipped out a notebook to take down notes about our registry. She said she's never ever seen the groom whip anything out, let alone write anything down. Hooray for more involved Andrew!
I think that's the one thing I've stressed over and over in the wedding planning. This is OUR wedding, not just MY wedding. I'm really tired of the society that expects the bride to do all the work and BE OK WITH IT. I'm not ok with taking on this enormous task by myself. I'm not the only one getting wedding-ed. Also, when we were registering, she insisted that she take down the bride's information as the contact person. It's on the form and everything! I said I thought that was kind of sexist and that I would like Andrew's name. I mean, what if there ARE no brides? What if it were two men registering? Ok, I'll get off my horse....
More updates to come!
to my PTR girl!
So happy you get to do a cruise again! And the Freedom of the seas looks really nice! I am very happy for you, Yuki! 
I'm so excited and can't wait to go. Another PTR?
Holy cow you're getting married. ME TOO! And of course you're doing a Disneymoon. We're like Disneymoon Bros? Can girls be Bros? 
I'm not sure. However, I'm going to go back and read this in more detail. I just saw this and had to write a post. Woot! Congratulations to you and Andrew!
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Basically, it would have cost WAY too much, then adding travel expenses on top of that. I just wouldn't have been able to have the people I wanted there for what we could afford.
lesson learned. Again.
