I Know she is depressed. I have taken her to the doctors several times. She gets meds, stays on them for any where from 1-4 weeks. Then she stops taking them for a variety of reasons. The most recent she thought she was. She told me she never stopped taking the pills her doc gave her. She was referring to her blood pressure pills not her depression pills. My DB is trying to help too, but we just don't know what to do. The doctor a couple of weeks ago told me that depression can cause memory loss, and memory problems can cause depression. So we are going to try once again to take care of the depression, then deal with the memory if we still need to. I call her every day and make sure she is taking all 3 of her meds. (one being a vitamin). She swears she is. I have 3 teens and a 3 year old, plus work it is not feesable for me to drive to her house and make sure she is taking her pills, but I honestly don't know what else to do. She keeps complaining of weakness and a "quivery" feeling inside. Can someone tell me if they or anyone they love has experienced this. I like her doctor, but I'm afraid there might be something they are missing. Also, when I went with her to the doctors last time I went in the exam room with her and her blood pressure was 100 over 62 (or is that 62 over 100). She is 76 yrs old. I was under the impression that would be considered low. Is it? She is on Norvasc for high blood pressure. I am wondering if that should be decreased. I did mention to the doc that saw her, but it wasn't her regular doctor. She did say that that wasn't even as low as the last time she was in. I know I'm rambling but I just don't know what to do. My mom has slowly been getting more and more depressed since my DB died 10 years ago, but she was always able to get up and out. She continued to go to her place of employment and socialize up until recently. Please if anyone can give me any help I would appreciate it. I know there are so many here with more serious problems, but I feel so helpless. I have begged my mom to go to counseling ever since my DB died, but she is old school and considers that a sign of weakness. I even told her when I went to a grief counselor. Sorry to ramble. Thank you all for being here.