For those of you who had kids early & sometimes wish you'd waited, let me offer another POV. My kids were born when I was 33 & 38 respectively. Now at 47, I'm still scrambling for baby sitters so DW & I can get a night out. Meanwhile my friends are becoming empty nesters & enjoying their freedom. I'll be near 60 when the youngest gets out of college.
For me, waiting was the right thing to do (I also married late). But, there's a definite upside to having kids while you're young.
A valid sentiment. I'm (late)40'ish and DH is 60 this year. Our one DS is 18. You were probably "over it" by the time we got started!I used to wish we had waited longer to have kids (both were "accidents"), but since you put it that way, I'm glad we got it over with.
I agree.Some of these stories are just breaking my heart.
We always say, "we got the two for one deal."We call our twins "Buy one get one twice the price". Twinning!
Oh yeah, so much this. I was 28 when I had my oldest (an "old maid" by my family standards) and 37 when my twins were born. My parents are not well enough to watch two young kids so that pretty much leaves my sister and oldest DD who works two jobs and goes to school. Needless to say we don't go out much. Then there's being mistaken for their grandmother. My friends my age ARE grandparents so it shouldn't bother me but man, it sure does.For those of you who had kids early & sometimes wish you'd waited, let me offer another POV. My kids were born when I was 33 & 38 respectively. Now at 47, I'm still scrambling for baby sitters so DW & I can get a night out. Meanwhile my friends are becoming empty nesters & enjoying their freedom. I'll be near 60 when the youngest gets out of college.
For me, waiting was the right thing to do (I also married late). But, there's a definite upside to having kids while you're young.
A valid sentiment. I'm (late)40'ish and DH is 60 this year. Our one DS is 18. You were probably "over it" by the time we got started!
Nice catch...I totally meant to say (mid)40'ish.Yep, I was 27 and 30 when we had kids. DW was not quite 25 and then 28. At least I waited until I was 41 to get married.
BTW, I thought you are "only" 45.
I only read a few posts so I don't know if this has been mentioned, but there was a survey a while back, where (anonymously) the number of people who regretted having children was surprisingly high. Of course few would admit it, because of the reaction they would get. I feel so bad for the kids of those parents, after all, they didn't ask to be born!
There was a survey decades ago in the Ann Landers advice column about this topic. The number who anonymously admitted they regretted having children was well over 50%. Of course, that's not a scientifically valid poll, but the results were surprising nonetheless.
And another Ann Landers poll was for couples currently married. If you got a do-over in life, would you marry your current spouse? The negative responses were likewise surprisingly high.
To anyone who would say they regret having children: your life would be just as average if you had not had children. The only difference is you wouldn't have an innocent child to blame for your mediocrity. Grow up.