I understand. We didn't tell anyone, including the kids, for the 1st couple of months. I'm 36 (was 35 when I got pregnant) and had made a big deal about being through. Dh on the other hand begged for another baby for 9 yrs! I finally gave in last summer. So while the baby wasn't a surprise for us, it was for everyone else! My sisters are 46, 44, and 31. So we are spread out too. The oldest, youngest and I are really close now. Unfortunately, the 2nd isn't close to anyone, but that has nothing to do with the age difference.