Angel Ariel
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- May 1, 2006
No, the fact that you choose together doesn't mean you are joined at the hip, but the fact that you are saying that if your spouse decided to bring your child without you would be a no, no says more. There isn't a place on the planet my Dh couldn't bring one of our children or all of them without me if the opportunity made sense in every aspect except I couldn't go. Hawaii is our place so I get that feeling, but if the opportunity came up where he could take them and I couldn't go I wouldn't feel right letting jealousy (because that's what it is) prevent them from going and making memories and an already special place more special. It just means the next time we all go they can share that experience with me and all that they did, and that would make me happy! That's just me of course. I don't understand the mentality that something is off limits to my family if I can't go because it is special.
Wow. This is the judgment that I was talking about. it's not jealousy, and it's not me saying it's a "no no". You are inferring more than is actually there, in our case.
It's something DH and I *agree* on. Neither of us have a *desire* - at the moment - to take one on one parent/child trips to WDW. That is not the same thing as what you're passing judgment on. Neither of us have a problem with the other taking a solo trip to WDW, but if DD is going, we both want to be there. I get that you may not make the same choice, but I don't get why that's so difficult to understand. If one person *wanted* to take the other and the other spouse said no, that would be an issue, but that's *not* the case for DH and I. If ever there came a time where one of us *did* want to take a one on one parent/child trip to WDW, we'd discuss and re-evaluate then. I didn't ever say it was "off limits", so please don't put those words in my mouth.
DD is 3. Yes, she's been to WDW - at 8 months and 15 months. She's an entirely different child now. Going with her now will be an entirely different experience than it was before. So no, neither of us want to miss out on that.