So, I am seeking advice concerning my nephew (grade 7, turns 13 in April). Background: DNephew has Asperger's/ Sensory Issues. Like many children on the spectrum, he is very smart but has poor social skills. His mother is pretty sick and also has some psych difficulties and has been unable to work for a while and really doesn't leave the house much other than to go to Dr's appts. My brother (his dad) has been working a lot to make up for the financial loss when SIL had to stop working. Anyway, as a result of this, I often invite DN to accompany us when I take the kids places - movies, museums etc... Lately, I've been having some difficulties with him and this is where I am seeking your advice as I have worked with little ones on the spectrum, but not older ones: My nephew (I'll call him "Joe") has been doing a lot of what I can only think to describe as overreacting. A couple recent examples: 1) We were on the subway heading to a museum the other day and were standing as there weren't available seats. Joe wasn't holding on well and when the train starting moving, he crashed pretty hard into DS13 who said, "OW,Joe! " Joe then went on a HUGE tirade and started YELLING about what an awful person he is, how he didn't know the train was going to move but everybody hates him anyway....he was really putting himself down and other people were getting scared and starting to move away from us. 2) He was at our house for dinner (unexpectedly) recently and DH had made a sauce and pasta. Joe is VERY picky and doesn't eat pasta. So, I offered him some cereal or a PB sandwich. He kept saying he wasn't hungry. Well, come to find out later he was hungry. But, DH had asked him how much he weighs earlier in the evening (part of a bigger conversation) and he took that to mean that DH thought he was fat and had decided he could never eat in front of him again, but didn't say anything. These are just two small examples. But these things have been happening a lot. Joe's self-esteem is almost non-existent and I don't know what to do to help. If you are still reading, Any suggestions or books you could recommend would be greatly appreciated.