Looking for stepmom advice, support, stories and experience! I am not technically a stepmom, but I live with my boyfriend and his two teenage girls. We are so in love, we know we want to spend the rest of our lives together (we are both aware of reality of that statement, no one a fortune teller, it won't always be easy). Ok so, girls are 16, junior in HS, and 13, 8th grade. BF and ex have joint custody and were suppose to have the girls half the time each. But girls have never spent half there time at their moms, they don't want to because their moms dramatic and emotional outburst. It's hard for me to recap the situation. They were both going to moms every other weekend, then big dramatic fight between mom and oldest. Oldest stop going every other weekend and youngest kept going. Last spring youngest tried spend half her time at moms, she stopped after she was having stomach aches everyday, she was in the nurse office everyday, teacher called home concerned. BF and I always try to be respectful of their mom and support that its important they spend time with her. We speculate she not so respectful towards us all the time in front of girls, based on the way she talks about other people (gossipy and negative) The oldest does spend sometime with her mom, and recently more and more time, but we do suspect that her mom paying for tank of gas every other week has something to do with it. When I introduced to the girls just under two years ago oldest had horrible relationship with her mom and was slightly open to having me around due to that. But she never been crazy about her dad dating, having a relationship with some other women. Her attitude has been changing over past 6 months or so. It seems to line up with the break up with her long term bf and started hanging out with female friends. She is very dramatic and emotional. She has a very good head on her shoulders but recently been showing less of that and more attitude. We realize a lot of this just normal teenage behavior and we painfully aware she spoiled brat and that we both contributed to that (and that was started before me) I am just looking for other step parents out there that going through or have gone through similar situation, step parent with teenagers.