**Final Update Page 6 Post 77** and this is also somewhat budget related. But really, I am posting here because the budget board is the best and most compassionate forum on Dis. About 2 months ago my wife of over 18 years told me she has changed and no longer loves me anymore. I have done everything possible since to try to turn things around but it has been an uphill battle and it is getting worse every day. I came to the realization that although there is still a glimmer of hope things will turn around, I have to face the fact that our marriage is most likely over. We have two daughters, 13 and 10. My wife just went back to work full time last fall. She had been working part time and mostly from home since my eldest daughter was born. I have been the bread winner for our entire marriage and make about 3 times what she makes. This is all coming from her as my feelings have not changed and I envisioned being with her forever. I am not sure what caused the sudden change in her feelings but I have a pretty good idea it is another guy. From a financial standpoint, am I totally up the creek? I wake up after almost of 20 years of planning and saving a good size nest egg for our future, only now to be told I am no longer loved, give me half your money, support me the next 10 years, move out of your house and only get see your kids every other week. I know, so many people have gone through this before so I dont want to sound like woah is me. I know I am not alone. But this was a tremendous shock to me and I just dont know what to do next.