You're saying two different things. On one hand, you're saying you can't pay. There's no shame in that, and it sounds like you have some good reasons for being in that position. If you truly can't afford to pay, that will show up on his FAFSA and he'll get aid. That's what the aid is for. But then you make it sound like you believe that parents in general shouldn't pay for their kids education. Many of us here disagree with you on this. So, which is it?