JUST one?

Discussion in 'Disney for Adults and Solo Travelers' started by intricatejewel, Oct 15, 2012.

  1. intricatejewel

    intricatejewel "Don't tell Monkey..."

    Joined:
    Oct 5, 2006
    Messages:
    60
    So I took my first solo travel to Disney World for four days and have decided its just not for me. I fell in love with the idea of doing ANYTHING I wanted instead of planning a trip around everyone else's expectations without compromise. I'm comfortable with my own company and after reading about several solo traveling posts from other DISers I decided,"Why not?" Upon checking in, the CM says JUST yourself? Why yes, I'm splurging on a vacation that's all about me. Standing in line for an attraction, I hold up one finger to indicate one rider:" ONLY one?" Checking in for a dinner reservation is greeted with, "Aw, it's JUST you today?" Mind you, each cast member said this with their head tilted to the side and a rather confused look on their face. By the third day, this response was setting my teeth on edge. I did my best to shrug it off, but the whole thing just left me with an unpleasant experience and I've resolved to never travel travel solo to Disney again. I'll continue to come back, but with friends and family to enrich the experience.
     
  2. Avatar

    Google AdSense Guest Advertisement


    to hide this advert.
  3. ludari

    ludari DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Dec 4, 2010
    Messages:
    2,921
    So sorry to hear that you had this unpleasant experience. I have never had anyone say "Aw,it's JUST you today?" but I'm a guy so maybe that has something to do with it. I am also the type of guy who really isn't paying much attention to small talk like that. I'll be heading out solo next month so I'll try to pay a little more attention.
     
  4. intricatejewel

    intricatejewel "Don't tell Monkey..."

    Joined:
    Oct 5, 2006
    Messages:
    60
    Hmm, I'm curious to know how you fair on your next solo trip. Perhaps it is a gender thing. You've shed some light on a new train of thought that I hadn't considered. From their POV perhaps they were wondering why a young woman was going on a vacation by herself instead of with friends or family. The gist of it came down to me wanting a little me time and the CM's perhaps weren't able to understand that. Oh we'll, I really am glad I went. The other park guests were fun to talk to and meet. I hope you have a great time!!
     
  5. DakotaRose

    DakotaRose DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Jun 23, 2012
    Messages:
    511
    Sorry you had an upsetting experience. I spent eight days solo recently, and didn't once feel out of place. If someone used the word "just" or "only" I didn't see it as judgement or pity.
    You are sensitive about this, to feel so offended that you decide to not go solo again. Why do you assume that they pity you or are curious about you? You are, after all, one guest in 500 to 10,000 that that castmember might see that day.
     
  6. Icecoldpenguin

    Icecoldpenguin May the Force Be With You

    Joined:
    Mar 5, 2010
    Messages:
    1,144
    That is so unfortunate. I had a blast on my solo trip I am a young woman also and had nothing but awesome support from cast members. My server at the character breakfast at park fare talked to me for a long time about having a strong individual personality and strength of character. She applauded me on doing something for myself and shared many stories with me that we're very inspiring. Don't let it discourage you I am married now but I'm going down by myself for a day before my husband meets me and I can't wait!

    Sent from my iPhone using DISBoards
     
  7. DISNEYWITHCHILDREN

    DISNEYWITHCHILDREN Mouseketeer

    Joined:
    Mar 25, 2012
    Messages:
    157
    This is interesting. While I have not dined at TS by myself I have gone on attractions and cs by myself. I write a blog about Disney and while I love being with my daughter and husband sometimes I need to be by myself to review.
     
  8. goofy_joe

    goofy_joe Mouseketeer

    Joined:
    Mar 27, 2008
    Messages:
    108
    Maybe it depends on the time of day (though it shouldn't). I are TS by myself at Tokyo Dining for lunch one day. (I was among the first seated for the day.) I got very attentive service and had a nice chat with the server near the end of the experience.

    Wherever possible at home, if I am dining solo, I like to sit at the bar. Unfortunately, most park restaurants aren't set up like that at WDW.
     
  9. geekboy

    geekboy Platinum Castaway Member

    Joined:
    Aug 27, 2010
    Messages:
    200
    I go to Disney whenever I can and that is mostly without friends/family! I love it when my friends and/or their children are with me, but I have my favorite things to do in the parks.

    My real excuse, at least what I tell my friends, is that I bought a Premium Annual Pass and I have to abuse it!
     
  10. Chuck S

    Chuck S DVC Boards Co-Moderator Moderator

    Joined:
    Feb 6, 2000
    Messages:
    25,314
    I just completed an 8 night solo trip. It was fine, I dined table service solo at Brown Derby, Coral Reef, Olivia's, Plaza Restaurant and T-Rex. I think the counter service places were a little weirder to eat at solo than the table service places because people are always looking for places to sit, and taking the extra chair from your table. I did meet a fellow Moderator and his wife for lunch at Raglan Road one day.

    I really enjoyed doing some things in the parks solo. My friends were texting wondering how I was doing at Disney alone. Like I told them, it's very different from traveleing with friends and family, but it is still fun. I was able to stop and admire the details of the themes, enjoy the walking treks at AK, and I had a shorter wait time using the single rider line at Rockin' Roller Coaster. :)

    I'm sorry the OP didn't have a great time going solo.
     
  11. intricatejewel

    intricatejewel "Don't tell Monkey..."

    Joined:
    Oct 5, 2006
    Messages:
    60
    Perhaps I was being sensitive to some of the comments, but it was very repetitive hearing, "Just one?" Its not much different from saying, "Is that all there is?". Don't get me wrong. There really were some aspects to solo traveling that I especially enjoyed and I feel obligated to mention that it wasn't all bad. I ate at the Plaza restaurant and the server there was very attentive and kind and it was a wonderful lunch. I met a very sweet person in line waiting for Stitch's Great Escape that was also a single traveler and she too gets a little annoyed with the JUST ONE comment, but it wasn't enough to deter her from visiting Disney by herself. We had fun and it was really that moment that I realized I much better enjoy disney when I'm sharing it with someone. Hearing JUST ONE all the time was like salt in a wound that I didn't realize was there and exasperated my loneliness. I didn't think I'd feel the way I did because I've vacationed before by myself on many occasions and loved it. Solo travel to Disney can be very rewarding in its own way but I learned through experience that it wasn't for me.
     
  12. stindall

    stindall Congress Tart

    Joined:
    Aug 11, 2012
    Messages:
    1,550
    I don't think you're being sensitive. Everyone is different as are their experiences. It very well may be that the way you were talked too felt demeaning to you, that's very possible even if it has never happened to any of these other posters. Please don't let them make you feel bad about having a hard time. Honestly, this is what I'm the most nervous about but I'm determined to go because I want to and no one else does! Bravo to you for at least trying it!
     
  13. Mariep26

    Mariep26 DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    May 12, 2011
    Messages:
    733
    I travel for work alone often and I get the same reaction everywhere. It does get old after awhile so I can definitely sympathize especially since you are traveling for pleasure.
     
  14. intricatejewel

    intricatejewel "Don't tell Monkey..."

    Joined:
    Oct 5, 2006
    Messages:
    60
    You're so sweet, thank you! I smiled when I read your comment. It's fine. I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion. I didn't want solo travelers to feel that I was attacking solo travel and discouraging other people who might be considering taking their first trip by themselves. And as for them making me feel bad about having a hard time, they really didn't. On the contrary, I took warmth from most of the responses.
     
  15. coldboxer04

    coldboxer04 Earning My Ears

    Joined:
    Jul 13, 2010
    Messages:
    31
    I've had CM's say similar things too me as well before, at first would really bother me cause I wouldn't mind having people to go with but I also enjoy being there by myself and getting to do whatever I want (single rider lines don't hurt either if only every ride had them). Thankfully though I have gotten used to it now and while not many opportunities to get into more conversations with new people happen the rare one does happen and can surprise.
     
  16. Chuck S

    Chuck S DVC Boards Co-Moderator Moderator

    Joined:
    Feb 6, 2000
    Messages:
    25,314
    I really think the "Just One" comment at restaurants is kind of normal everywhere. Kind of like "Thank You and Have a Nice Day" when you check out at the grocery store...so I let it slide like water on a duck's back. And when I'm alone I notice that the restaurant CMs tend to be a little more chatty, which is fine.

    But for the OP, solo travel just isn't everyone's cup of tea. I'm perfectly OK with it, but I do prefer to travel with friends/family when they can go. But when they can't come...I go alone. I'd never cancel a trip just because I'd be a solo traveler.
     
  17. Claudia Kellenberger

    Claudia Kellenberger DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Aug 19, 1999
    Messages:
    2,117
    I have already had 14 annual solo vacations at WDW. I never heard comments like that, or if they were said I just didn't pay attention to it.
    When I was asked how many in my party, I usually answered with the words
    "Just One". However ..... I always said "Just One" very proudly !!
    I am a middle aged woman ...... OK ...... I am now 59, and I will be on another solo visit in about 3 weeks. At this point in my life, I have come to treasure my solo trips. My DH prefers to stay home with our two cats.
    ( We don't have human children - just kitty children )

    To the OP ..... If you hear those kind of comments again ..... just let it go above your head. You can still go and have a fantastic time.
     
  18. ahoff

    ahoff DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2000
    Messages:
    1,880
    I have made many solo trips, and never seemed to be targeted. Maybe it is a gender thing. Of course many people may be seperated from their groups, so who is to say what their status is? The wife and kids may be on another ride or back at the pool. But I look forward to being singled out, especially on a ride line and I hear "party of one!"
     
  19. PeterPanic

    PeterPanic <font color=royalblue>I hate the squeeze thingy. I

    Joined:
    Oct 2, 2012
    Messages:
    1,210
    I don't think it's what they are saying that is the problem, it's what you are hearing. Example: Just one? Is a informational question used to be sure that it is just one. Certainly not a statement of judgment. You heard it as a judgment! However, that said, if you are that conscious of yourself as a single then you are correct to make the decision to only go with others. That wasn't a nasty comment only an expression of an opinion that you have already reached.

    The last 4 times I have gone solo, I have come back and made the statement..."That's it, I'm not going alone again". Not because I didn't enjoy myself and I never really felt singled out, it just is more fun to have some one to share things with. Still, I keep doing it again. Can't be that bad.
     
  20. DeeCee735

    DeeCee735 "How Do You Know of the Key?"

    Joined:
    Mar 1, 2001
    Messages:
    3,022
    I'm looking at having to travel alone for the first time due to my DH having to cancel because of hurricane sandy closing his business for a bit. Now he can't take time off.
    I'm mixed between canceling and giving solo a try. I'm a pretty strong willed independent happy friendly person, but I must admit I haven't been alone for a long long time. I'm wondering if it will "feel" ok to be alone for four days?

    Was the first time you went awkward at all or were you comfortable from the get go? If awkward, how'd you get past that? Do you have to travel far on your own to get there? Any hints or tips I can consider to be more comfortable? I don't really want to cancel, I have quite a few things booked. Any info any of you can provide will be appreciated! Thanks!
     
  21. KrazeeK120

    KrazeeK120 DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Feb 29, 2012
    Messages:
    1,214
    I am sorry you didn't have a fun experience by yourself!

    I haven't ever gone on vacation alone, but DH and I do split up on occasion to do things that the other doesn't want to. For instance, I hate Mission: Space and he doesn't really see the need to ride Soarin' 5 times in one day...

    Anyway, the last time I was there, I was in the Soarin' line alone. I was near-ish to the front but there were still a lot of people ahead of me. They were looking for a party of 1 to fill the last spot in the next group to ride. I felt like a total rock star when they made everyone move to the side so that I could walk past to get on the ride!

    You never know when something unexpected will happen. I encourage you not to give up on experiencing WDW alone or feeling like you can't go off by yourself even if you travel there with friends/family.
     

Share This Page