For me , it isn't about the "hurry up and get married" part. I do not believe in rushing things either. I gave my ring back to DH 2x before we were married because I was trying to be sure and not ready to commit. So, for me, it is not that I think a year is too long. I think people need at least a year. At least. Just MHO. I just do not think she should live with him, with her child, when she is not really sre what direction this is really even headed--they sound like they are still in the "dating stage" and not really ready for marriage OR living together to me. Again, JMO. I think she sounds like she went into this home with the thought of, "I'll change him/his mind about all this." And that's the wrong thing to do. I'd move out and keep dating him if I was in love with him. That's interesting. I would have never lived with anyone before marriage. But hmmm...if I had, we would most likely not be together now. We had a rough 3 years of marriage so if there had not been a solid commitment, I would have left, I'm sure. Nothing major (fighting, violence, adultery, etc.), just a rough 3 years (more me than him). I stayed because of those vows (and I did truly love him, that was never an issue). If I had not taken those vows, I would have felt like leaving would be so much easier than working things out. 26 years later, I've had a wonderful marriage and a great life with my husband. But, it was a rough time in the beginning.