I just don't care... small vent

Discussion in 'Community Board' started by sam_gordon, Dec 6, 2012.

  1. eliza61

    eliza61 http://www.wdwinfo.com/dis-sponsor/images

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    What's wrong with that? and it's not that they have to "Care" but it does make the place you spend much of the day at, a lot nicer.

    Listen, I just experienced a tragedy in my life and let me tell you, it does make the place where I work very nice when folks come up to me and express compassion and concern. Yeah, maybe it's meaningless because they all don't know me well and I don't think I'm an attention hog but it does feel good when the elevator guy says "hey sorry to hear about your loss".
    sorry, I'm with the others, why is is so horrible that others simply want to be cordial.

    Do we have to know some one's life history to share 3 minutes of our life with them?

    For the record you're coworker was simply asking for a little help. Not really what I would say is asking you to "care about her life".
     
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  3. sam_gordon

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    No problem eliza.:thumbsup2 I knew I would get these kinds of responses.
    Believe me, I'm not upset. Did it annoy me? Yes, just because I'm not that interested in others' (in general) personal lives. There are coworkers who I would have no problem with them sharing this information. To me, it comes down to the relationship you have with someone.

    On an annoyance scale, this probably ranks about 1-2. But I'm bored, and thought I'd throw it out on the Dis.
     
  4. RitaE

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    So you don't have a spare minute or two in your day to make a few sympathetic noises toward a Co-Worker who tells you he had a stroke .... but plenty of time to come here and post about it on the DIS? :confused3


    You might consider one of those work in solitude type of jobs. No pesky co-workers around to bother you at all.
     
  5. eliza61

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    No worries Mate,

    I'm one of those people who for some reason perfect strangers will talk to. My dh would crack up with laughter. When we lived in NYC, we'd get on the train and it was a lead pipe certainity that the old lady sitting next to me would launch into her entire medical history and how her kids don't visit enough!!
     
  6. snapppyd

    snapppyd God is Great, Beer is Good and People are Crazy

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    So maybe he wants to become one of "those" coworkers? Sounds like he was just trying to have a conversation, and heaven forbid, get a touch of sympathy?
     
  7. sam_gordon

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    That would be nice. :lmao:

    But when did this become I don't like talking to ANY co-worker? Haven't I said I'm comfortable with SOME coworkers?
     
  8. MIGrandma

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    Wow, you don't care that he had a stroke,or "whatever"?! :eek: I would care that a perfect stranger had a stroke, and I would most definitely care more that a co-worker had one!! I'm sorry you have no compassion for your co-workers. I see nothing wrong with what your co-worker said to you. He didn't go into all the gory details of his medical problems, he was just explaining to you why he wanted to talk to the other co-worker about what cab company they use. So sorry you couldn't give him the time of day. Very sad. :(
     
  9. furb & dez

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    Haven't you heard, sam? Life is all black and white on the DIS. You've got at least a good three pages of clucking to endure, now that you've outed yourself as a horrible, horrible person for not wanting to be subjected to virtual strangers' medical problems.

    ;)
     
  10. sam_gordon

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    Too true. :thumbsup2

    It's been a couple days since we've had a good "beat down" on here, so I thought I'd give people somewhere to focus their negative energy. :rotfl:
     
  11. Katieinwonderland

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    I agree with you that over-sharing drives me crazy, but I don't know if this would bother me.

    To me, over-sharing is what I had to put up with today. The cashier at Target asked when my baby was due and when I replied, her response was "you know when I delivered my baby I had the worst hemorrhoids, I was in so much pain, plus I tore and had to have stitches, you should have seen it down there!"

    :eek::eek::eek::eek:

    WHY are you telling me this???!!!
     
  12. snapppyd

    snapppyd God is Great, Beer is Good and People are Crazy

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    So you come here to complain, most of us don't agree with you, so now we're the bad guys. :rotfl2:
     
  13. Pea-n-Me

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    No offense Sam, but I do find it kind of funny and ironic in light of some of your posts here detailing your kids' sports problems to the nth detail. :laughing:

    Not that I minded those posts, just as I don't mind hearing about people's medical or other problems. At some point, all of us will have issues we want to talk about that affect us, that others couldn't care less about if they don't affect them. That's just how life is.

    It wouldn't kill you to have a bit more empathy and compassion, cause some day you or your loved ones may be on the receiving end yourself. In fact, this is the perfect season to "get into the spirit".

    Of course, maybe I'm a little sensitive today because someone close to me had a pretty devastating stroke last week.
     
  14. sam_gordon

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    Not what I tried to say. If that's how it sounded, I apologize.
     
  15. KennesawNemo

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    Using the same logic, he would be walking away immediately after you said "no, can I help you?" because you wouldn't be able to help him anyway.

    I don't see what the big deal was and you are just being hard.
     
  16. sam_gordon

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    I see posting online as different. For the main reason, if I open a thread to read, and then it turns out it doesn't interest me, I can close it. I don't have to read the whole thread or even the whole OP. I get to CHOOSE what I read. Not really the case IRL. Others I'm sure will disagree.

    You are correct

    Unless I'm missing it, the only thing I could have done different was say "I'm sorry to hear that." The problem is, by the time I could get a word in, it was pretty much past the time it was appropriate. And yes, "I'm sorry" he had a stroke. I wish he didn't. I'm sure someone will say I'm changing my story but I don't think so. I did not need the background of why he needed cab information.
    I'm sorry to hear that.
     
  17. Elinor Dashwood

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    I agree. This coworker might very well have been having a horrible day, you know what with his recent stroke for crying out loud, and talking to someone else was what he needed. It's a pretty sad day if a person can't give 30 seconds to another person in need.

    This happens to me too! I've had complete strangers start telling me their life story and I patiently listen and comment. Who knows what kind of life they've had, what kind of battle (health wise) they may be fighting. It's not too much to give a bit of time and it doesn't annoy me at all.

    OP, I realize everyone is different and you're not required to listen to every coworker but this post came across kind of harsh and uncaring. Your poor coworker had a stroke and can't drive himself to work. You don't feel anything for this guy? Heck, I don't even know him and I feel badly for his situation.
     
  18. snapppyd

    snapppyd God is Great, Beer is Good and People are Crazy

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    Just so we're straight, I think you are the one with the negative energy.:)
     
  19. sam_gordon

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    ok.:)
     
  20. soccerdad72

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    By its very definition, isn't that a vent is? :confused3
     
  21. Alesia

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    You poor dear! You had to spend 30 seconds listening to a coworker instead of pretending that he was a piece of furniture - that's terrible! Why on earth would that man think he's entitled to some human dignity?
     

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