What's wrong with that? and it's not that they have to "Care" but it does make the place you spend much of the day at, a lot nicer. Listen, I just experienced a tragedy in my life and let me tell you, it does make the place where I work very nice when folks come up to me and express compassion and concern. Yeah, maybe it's meaningless because they all don't know me well and I don't think I'm an attention hog but it does feel good when the elevator guy says "hey sorry to hear about your loss". sorry, I'm with the others, why is is so horrible that others simply want to be cordial. Do we have to know some one's life history to share 3 minutes of our life with them? For the record you're coworker was simply asking for a little help. Not really what I would say is asking you to "care about her life".