"...Also, does anyone on here set up incentive systems for your kids? (i.e. "If you behave, you will get ____at the end of the day")..." I had to laugh at the incentive systems. Growing up it was If you behave, you will get to continue living at the end of the day. The best advice was just know your child. If they sleep 10 hours a day and it's cut to 6 there is most likely going to be a problem. I typically don't confront the child but the parent. When my DD got punched I went straight to the father.