While I'm not sure, that my understanding of this statement is accurate but, because I'm hearing it more of late, I thought I'd weigh in. So. . . Here goes. Does this mean the wife or one partner, in the relationship will be happy only if, they are allowed to make the decisions. That the husband, or other partner realizing this makes it so. If this is accurate, I will now describe my marriage. In the early yrs, I wanted things to be my way/choice. Then, as I got older, I realized this was not fair. We are fortunate in our likes and dislikes however, because I was a bit of a Tom boy. So DH's enjoyment of motorcycling was not an activity I would say no to. Then, because I was raised by parents that were grew up near water. DH's desire to be on the water, (boating) was enjoyed by me as well. We still have our differences. I enjoy little theater, he not so much, but will come with me just the same. Separate activities, one example: He likes roller coasters, I do not. So we will have a parting at amusement parks, meeting up later. Other differences like in music, foods, tv viewing. However, we always find a way to make choices fair. This year we celebrated 43 yrs married. If my understanding in the beginning is correct, Happy Wife ='s Happy Life, How does it work, for those whom live like this?