Had to cancel holiday... absolutely heartbroken

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  1. Holstar

    Holstar Have faith in your dreams, and someday, your rainb

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    I dont even know where to start&

    I guess the best place to start is at the beginning. I was hospitalised in November due to a number of things but a blood transfusion and two months worth of medication and I was sent home. However, that was just the start and almost straight after, I developed a chest infection, queue 45 days worth of steroids. And then, due to the steroids lowering my immune system, I caught flu. I thought Id had flu before, but this was awful! Anyway, my breathing got really bad and I was taken to hospital at the end of February.

    In addition to the flu, blood tests and a later CT scan revealed a blood clot in my lung and I was admitted once again to hospital. I was kept in hospital for a while and my treatment is still ongoing.

    So basically, Ive been ill since November! Work have been fantastic (surprisingly), and so have university. As the cold air was a trigger for both the chest infection and flu, I was told to stay home by my doctor and missed about four months of uni, but I worked from home. I went back at the end of March and everything was fine and I have extensions until the end of May for my actual work.

    However, on Friday I received a letter informing me that Id been withdrawn from my May exams as they felt that I wasnt fully prepared (despite me meeting every deadline they've set me from home) and that I was to sit my exams during the summer re-sit period in August.

    The re-sit period will begin three days after we leave for Florida and end the week before we come back. I appealed, and it was rejected. Im so incredibly angry& me sitting exams later in the year was never mentioned as a possibility, in fact, every time Ive discussed my exams/coursework and their progress, its been said that I need to pass everything in May as I cant be here for August. This has come completely out of no where.

    So, spoke with Travel City Direct who could move our trip to before the exams (end of July-mid August) or after (mid Sept first week of Oct), however we would loose the free dining and our flights were so much more expensive which meant we would need to find an extra £2,500 before June. Impossible.

    Our only option was to cancel and rebook for next August. A year and a half away :(

    I feel absolutely heart broken. This year has been so incredibly difficult, what with my health in addition to family worries, this holiday was the only thing thats kept me going and kept me working at home through it all.

    We've not told the girls yet. I dont even know how to approach it. We had them over Easter for a few days and all they talked about was Florida and how excited they were, how jealous their friends were etc. Every question began with 'When we're in Florida...' and every statement ended with '....do they do that in America?'.

    Sorry for the huge post. Ive not even wanted to type this as it sort of makes it all the more real and you guys have been such an amazing support during the planning, its hard now saying its all been for nothing.

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  3. Ciorsdah

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    *hugs* I'm so sorry this has happened to you love. I would be just as upset if this happened to me.

    I'm sure your girls will understand - You've not cancelled the holiday totally, the magic has simply been postponed for a wee while.

    Don't let it get you too far down though, think of the extra time you have to save up and plan and all the extra time that your girls will have dreaming of what they will get up to and the excitement that will bring.

    Right now your health is a priority, and Im glad that you are on the mend. Keep the head up and focus on passing those blasted exams and saving up for an extra special treat next Aug! xxx
     
  4. kristieuk

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    Blimey, that's so awful, I can't imagine how you must be feeling, it's brought tears to my ears just reading it, especially about your girls. Honestly, I don't know what to say to make you feel any better, but my best wishes are with you. I hope you continue to feel better, and maybe you can make the extra time you have to save make the trip even extra-special.

    Big hugs to you :hug:
     
  5. ChipnDaleRule

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    Oh my goodness,my jaw just dropped when I read your headline.Absolutley devastated for you all.I know many people on DIS have had to cancel for various reasons,and I'm sure they will all be extremely supportive:hug:
    I'm sure you can explain to the girls that your holiday has been put back and that with the extra time to save maybe you could focus on something extra special that you could do together.Kids are very resilient and understanding.I hope you are feeling better now,and glad to hear work have been understanding:hug:
     
  6. Lisa x

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    :( awww that's so sad.

    Sorry to hear you have had to cancel, I'm sure the kids will react better than you might imagine.

    Hope you are fully better soon!

    Just typical that it happens to clash and everything is so much more expensive to change. So annoying.
     
  7. queendisney

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    Oh I am so sorry for you all. I can't imagine how upset you must be. Glad your health is on the mend though, just a shame that your uni are not able to budge. :hug:
     
  8. catherine

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    :hug: :hug: I'm so sorry that you've been so poorly and now on top of all that you've had to postpone (sounds better than cancel!) your trip. I'm heartbroken for you! I'm sure that the girls will be disappointed but as a PP said children are resilient and once they've absorbed the idea that they'll have to wait a little longer then they'll start looking forward to the next trip! :goodvibes Best wishes to go for Uni and sorting out your next trip! :thumbsup2
     
  9. joolz1910

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    You must be so gutted. :( I would spend the next 12 months saving like mad and then add something as a spectacular treat to your trip next August - it might lessen the disappointment if you think next year's trip will be even better.:goodvibes

    Is there something you could do as a consolation for the girls? A weekend away perhaps? Something to divert them once you've broken the news?
     
  10. TinkerbellW

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    That's awful. The main thing is that you are on the mend.

    I can understand how disappointed you feel about having to change the date, how angry you are at Uni, and how upset you about telling the girls.

    Having just finished a degree (and working full time) I take my hat off to you for keeping up with the work and deadlines - you just have to see it as a means to and end (and you'll have a fantastic holiday to look forward to at the end).

    As it has already been said, yes they will be disappointed but kids are resilient and it's not like it's totally cancelled. You will be surprised at how well they take it.

    Is there no option to go earlier than Aug 2014?
     
  11. MrRomance

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    So sorry to hear this.

    Things have probably changed since my Uni days, but couldn't you defer and take them next semester? I never had to defer anything when at Uni but I had friends who for reasons completely within their control (too much Student Bar!) had to defer their coursework or exams.

    Might be worth asking someone if there is any other options.
     
  12. Disneynutinlondon

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    Oh Holly I know this is heartbreaking news but really you can work through it.

    10 years ago we were booked to go to Canada skiing over Xmas 3 months before we were going DH was diagnosed with cancer :worried: BA and the hotel were really great about it, when I explained, and they allowed me to move the dates..... anyway long story short after months of chemo and radiotherapy we were able to go on that skiing holiday and we all had a fabulous time.

    I guess what I'm trying to say .... not that very well, sorry ..... is that although you feel terrible about it now things will work out :goodvibes:goodvibes
     
  13. JintyB

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    Gutted for you. :sad1:

    Keep looking for the positives - you are still going to go AND more of Fantasyland will be complete x
     
  14. Magic Megadegs

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    I'm so sorry to read that. I hope your health improves and your exams go well.

    I'm sure the children will support you as it is not cancelled, the dates have just been shifted x
     
  15. PJB71

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    Sending you a big :hug:
     
  16. VailaTigger

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    Nothing to add that hasn't already been said, just wanted to send you hugs and pixie dust!! I know how I'd feel, hope it all works out for the best. X
     
  17. Wills Mom

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    Ah no :( I really hope you're ok! You've had such a bad run of it recently and this is just the icing on the cake! Don't be worried about the girls, kids are resilient and once they know that there is another trip down the line they'll manage. In the meantime is there anything you can do to treat yourself? I know it wont be WDW but after the past couple of months and this disappointment you really do deserve something nice to look forward to and lift the mood. Big big hugs, I hope that on your August 2014 trip you get lots and lots of extra pixie dust ! And best of luck with the exams, sounds like you'll do great even with all the stress and upset in recent months x
     
  18. Holstar

    Holstar Have faith in your dreams, and someday, your rainb

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    Thank you so much for all of your kind words. It really does mean so much. :hug:

    We've decided to go down south next weekend and tell the girls in person. We're going to take them to West Midlands Safari Park over the weekend so hopefully they won't be too down, or we'll at least be able to cheer them up.

    I'm still dreading it though :sad1:

    We're trying really hard to think of something nice to do. We're most likely going to take the girls back to Ben's home (Guernsey) for a week in August and spend some time on the beach surfing and kayaking. And, with the pressure off to finish paying the holiday off so quickly, we'll be able to spend more time with them throughout the year.

    Ben has suggested adding three or four nights onto the end of the holiday next year at Disney's Vero Beach... So we'd do two weeks at the Yacht Club doing just Disney things, a week in a villa doing other water parks and shopping and then four or five days sitting by the beach. I priced it up and it's quite reasonable, especially as we're going to be able to spread the cost over such a long period. And, we're definitely going to upgrade seats to PE.

    It's been a really tough couple of years! I'm at uni 9-4 most week days, and then I work four evenings a week and both Saturday and Sunday. I can't remember what it's like to not be exhausted! Hahaha!

    But, it's worth it, or it will be - my nieces are three of the most important things in my world, and I want them to have WDW whilst they're young. And, I've wanted to go to WDW since I was a little girl. This is my dream.

    I was hoping to do it earlier, rather than August. But, we're really restricted by term dates. If we can't do it this summer, next year (academic year) is my final year, well, before I start my MA anyway. Which means that my term dates are longer, I can't take time off during term time and having had a quick look at school dates, I'm pretty sure my half terms will be during the girls term time.

    Realistically, August is the only time we could do it next year. My dissertation will be in end of May, exams will be May through to June and then I'll graduate in July... I'm really reluctant to move the holiday earlier and risk another clash.

    I was so upset on Friday, I considered this and asked about this option. I've been told that I can't defer exams, we have a no-sit = automatic fail with no right to re-sit rule (unless there are exceptional circumstance, such as hospitalisation). So, if I don't sit in August, I would fail the year. It would be dubious whether I'd be able to claim Exceptional Factors due to existing plans, but it's too much of a risk. If it were rejected, I'd fail the year and I wouldn't necessarily get a chance to re-sit :(
     
  19. dixonsontour

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    I know how much planning you put into this..it must be so hard but you will be going sooner than you know :goodvibes
     
  20. Holstar

    Holstar Have faith in your dreams, and someday, your rainb

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    I'm okay-ish.... I feel so silly being this upset about this, it is just a holiday. But, it's devastating.

    We had a nice night last night. Ben and I went shopping and he bought himself some Disney tshirts and swimming trunks and he bought me some dresses for Florida. A year and a half away or not, I'm still determined to put stuff away so they've been put in the suitcase!

    That makes me feel better weirdly, it feels like we're still progressing and working towards something. I bought some shampoo, travel first aid stuff and new tooth brushes today for the cases!
     
  21. ChipnDaleRule

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    Dont know about anybody else but im finding your story of commitment to uni and your family quite inspiring.
     

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