Fish Extender gifts question

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  1. Daisy'sMama

    Daisy'sMama Mouseketeer

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    Ok, I am just trying to figure out how this works. We are sailing in Feb with a smaller FE group. However, one of our families has 11 people and one has 16. Does that mean I need to make/bring 27 gifts, but my daughter will only get two? Is it per person or per family or per stateroom? How do I broach this with our group without sounding selfish? I just want it to balanced.
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    Stephanie
     
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  3. Hunclemarco

    Hunclemarco DIS Veteran

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    Not sure if you have to mention anything at all. If all you can do is one gift per family group, that should be fine. If you can and want to create individual gifts...that would be fine too. If you fear your child not receiving much, you can also pack a few gifts and throw them in throughout the trip. This should be a fun activity...no need to complicate matters :)

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  4. Laundress

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    Has your group set up a cut off time for signing up for FE? I found that the last few weeks our group trippled in size. we had to have a before and after cut off group. We ended up with so much cool stuff that I had to buy a duffle bag from the gift shop to get it home.
    To get back to your guestion. you can do the gifts any way you want, per person,room,family,grown ups,children. some people do one gift per day some one for the whole trip. It really is up to you. you can also choose to put your name or not. The whole thing is a surprise. But there is still plenty of time for the group to grow and for things to even out. Enjoy:hippie:
     
  5. iloverags2

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    I will apologize ahead of time, but I don't get those two "families". To me, if you have say a family of 5 or 6 spread out over two staterooms, that is one thing. Extended family beyond that in a number of staterooms? Seems to me they need to be broken up as that...mom/dad/kids for each set of families within the family. Again, not to be harsh, but that just is my take on it. I will say in all the exchanges I have participated in, when parents are traveling with their kids and grandkids, they have always been a separate family so to speak. Just my opinion.

    As others have said, the way you handle it is up to you.
     
  6. AnotherPrincess

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    We are traveling with extended family and we have 2 rooms total. The way we look at it is each room is a family. Therefore each room will have an extender and each room will give gifts. I think the rule of thumb should be that if an extender is put out, expecting to be receiving, then gifts should come from that room too. However, this isn't always what happens. Unless your extender group specifically addresses this, it will be up to each family/room to decide what to do.
     
  7. JustTJ

    JustTJ Luv Dising

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    The issue I ran into last year for our FE, was that some didn't pay attention to our situation. I was travelling with a Girlfriend and my youngest son. It started out as a "Mommy and Me" trip for myself and my youngest, but then I invited my friend along. We both signed up for the FE, She made her own FE gifts and I made my own to give out. We did, as far as I'm concerned, make it clear we were TWO separage families in one stateroom, giving out two separate gifts. Some people who gave to us, gave one gift per stateroom. It should have been one gift per family. So some items, we had to decide who would take it home, and the other would be without. And some of those gifts were very nice gifts. Don't know what else we could have done in that situation?
     
  8. Hunclemarco

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    We had about 30 in our FE group....and then a few extras that joined in the last minute. We purchased/made items for each individual, then one item for each family group. We made extras for those that joined in some instances...last second :thumbsup2

    The person that set up our FE had us put each individual on the list, and we were able to determine the family groups. Also noted were special occasions, and ages of the kids. This way we were able to do as we could. Unfortunately you'll never know if you'll get items from a family group or from each individual within the family group. There may be no way to determine a "balance". Again, it's suppose to be a fun event. Do what you're able and want to do, and enjoy it in the fact that you're giving some cheer to others on the cruise... then anything you receive with be that much more joyful :)

    We purchased disney candies, disney flashlights for the kids, and made personalized disney magnets with the help of the disigns thread for everyone. Then the second day we sent everyone glow sticks and pirate garb. We then made tote bags...one for each family group so if they chose, they could use it for Castaway Key day. We were on a 3 day Bahamian cruise.
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  9. sissy_ib

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    Are the 11 people and 16 people considering themselves one group each? They should be doing it by family unit or stateroom. How are they listed on the sign up sheet?
     
  10. DobieLover

    DobieLover Earning My Ears

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    I'm very new to this... with the FE, there's no "secret Santa" type assignment /matching by the organizer? Just everyone gives to everyone? I have lots of cute little stuff for kids... would it be appropriate to just give to the cabins with kids for however many kids are in each cabin?
     
  11. Hunclemarco

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    I've only participated in one FE, and with ours, there were no "matchups". We just made for all on the list. We gave to adults and to kids.
    We have no children, but received candies, pirate garb, some have made paintings, or brought something significant to their city or place of origin. It may be a little more challenging to create gift ideas for adults, that's why we made the totes....however there are so many threads here with very inventive ideas that were used as excellent gifts for everyone :thumbsup2
     
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  13. nikicares

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    I have "hosted" the FE group for 2 of our cruises, and both was set up for each family to do as they wish (gift per person, gift per cabin, gift per day) whichever works best for that person. Many people enjoy doing personalized per person gifts ( I am not that talented or crafty) so I always just made a per cabin gift with a few little goodies in it and then the family could decide who gets/wants what.

    I did notice on the newer ships with the ships being larger I would NOT have wanted to hand out gifts per day - it was a lot of walking deck to deck, cabin to cabin.

    Just know that being apart of a FE is about giving and receiving fun little surprises through out your cruise - this is just a fun "addition" to your cruise. Expect nothing and get lots of fun and laughter (and goodies) out of your experience!
     
  14. sissy_ib

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    As someone without kids who signs up for FE, I do not think it is appropriate to sign up and then only give to the cabins with children. On my last cruise we had 12 cabins and 3 were adults only. the idea is to give a gift to every cabin. You do not have to do a gift for every person individually.
     
  15. tink576

    tink576 Think of the Happiest Thing

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    In regards to the kids gift question. You should still do a gift for the staterooms with adults only....like what we do is give kid specific things or half adult half kid gift to the rooms with kids then an an all adult gift for rooms with only adults
     
  16. caribear

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    I have been involved in a couple of FE's.....and it is usually divided by staterooms. If the family with 11 people has 3 staterooms....then that is 3 different FE holders hanging from 3 cabin doors....thus 3 different FE gifts. Each stateroom should make a gift to give out....for this purpose it would be easier to make 1 gift per stateroom to give out to the other participants. Now if this family of 11 is only going to have 1 FE holder hanging from 1 cabin......then you can do 1 FE gift to hand out. It's not based really on how many people are in your family.....it's based more on the number of cabins. If someone chooses to make a gift for each person in the cabin....VS one larger gift per cabin....then that is up to them. Just have fun with it....and if it seems too overwhelming....then just bring some of your own little gifts to put in your DD's FE each day.
     
  17. DbleTheFun

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    In all the FE exchanges that I have participated in, the coordinator creates a list, It contains Cabin #, and names/ages/*** of the people in the cabin. Then all participants print out this list, and make/hand out treats based on this information. It's SO much fun to come back to your cabin to discover a little treat or two in your FE, and even more fun to slip some fun items into your fellow cruiser's FE's from your family.

    I dont think there needs to be a long list of rules, but I do think that if you sign up to participate, you ensure that you follow through and contribute to all the cabins/people in your exchange. Whether that means something larger for the cabin to share, or smaller contributions based on age for each cabin member- just have fun with it and dont stress!
     
  18. leigh38

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    Hi,

    My family will be participating in the Fishextenders for the first time. It sounds like a lot of fun and we can't wait to start making our gifts. I just have a quick question. Do I make 1 gift per family or 1 for each member of the family. I want to make sure I do this correctly! I can't wait to get started!

    Leigh
     
  19. PrincessShmoo

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    That needs to be asked on your meet/FE thread. Each group sets its own "rules".

    Some people do one gift per room. Others do one for adults/one for kids in each room. Others - one per person. Some even only do gifts for kids only.

    All the FEs we've done, we could do as we wished.
     
  20. mimmi

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    I'll be cruising on the Fantasy next Saturday :-)banana:) and we have two our three families/groups that are in two or more cabins.
    I made one gift for the adults and one for each child.
    Our list shows how the families are broken up, so if there is more than one cabin and the list shows more than two adults, I give one adult gift to each cabin. If there are, for example, 2 adults and five kids, I give one adult gift and 5 kids gifts, even though they are in two cabins.

    I don't care if I give out more gifts than I get, we are a big group, so my daughter won't miss out on the fun and for me, the fun is making and giving gifts. If you are worried, just ask in your meet thread how the others are planning to do the exchange.
     
  21. nannylori

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    Okay,I'm jumping in with my two cents:
    Last year, the Fantasy MV was my first time doing an FE and it was true trial by fire, as I had, I believe over 100 cabins. Having only 30 cabins on our 3/9 Fantasy trip is a true vacation! So last year,as overwhelming as it was, I did what I felt I could live with,what I wanted MY FE to be & it made me feel good about it and as many cabins as it was (& over two hours of deliveries),I still felt I did the right thing...

    Two married adults shared postcards,magnets and a votive candle holder that I placed a Fantasy MV sticker on
    Two Adults sharing a room, each adult received their own set of above gifts(which were all done thru Vistaprint)
    Each child received their own set of gifts which were age appropriate,some acquired at a dollar store,Disney outlet, Homegoods,Ross Store,etc.

    I did not give out candy. As for the childrens gifts, I found it easier to come up with ideas for the younger children. I thought the older children presented more of a challenge.
    I don't like to waste money,so I wanted each gift for each child to be something they could/would like to use,such as Disney Coloring book w/crayons,or a few sand toys,or swim googles, or small magic kits,etc. They weren't extravagant gifts,just,hopefully, fun & useful.Hope this helped:hippie:
     

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