Feeling Like Its the End of the World

Discussion in 'Coping and Compassion' started by StitchesGr8Fan, Nov 18, 2012.

  1. StitchesGr8Fan

    StitchesGr8Fan DIS Veteran

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    My dad had a stroke Thursday morning. It was awful. He was totally paralyzed on the right side and couldn't speak. I found out Thursday evening that DH and I are pregnant with our first baby. Ever since then I feel just awful, full of anxiety. My dad is better, his speech is fully back and he can walk and move his right side again. He is still having fine motor skill deficits oh his right side (holding a pen or a fork) and some memory gaps. His sense of humor and and his stubbornness to get better are still there I'm worried about my mom who will be taking care of him because her life will never be the same and I feel like I can't do as much to help her because I'm taking care of this baby growin in me. And I feel guilty being excited for this baby. It wasn't supposed to be like this. I don't know what to do.
     
  2. StitchesGr8Fan

    StitchesGr8Fan DIS Veteran

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    I'm dreading thanksgiving because I don't want dad to be frustrated if someone has to help him eat. And I don't want something to happen to my mom's health because she is stressed about taking care of my dad. There is no one to help but me and DH because my older brother is handicapped.
     
  3. DisneyFan32WI

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    You actually have much to be thankful for this Thanksgiving. Your dad is getting better.....this will take some time! You have a new baby on the way!

    It is always a bit stressful around the holidays, so take things one day at a time and count your blessings.

    :flower3:
     
  4. mommasita

    mommasita DIS VETERAN Moderator

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    I'm sorry to hear about your father. But It sounds like he is recovery very quickly, and I hope and pray he continues. I am sure it is way too soon, but there is a lot of therapy that helps.

    Congratulations to you! :cloud9:

    It is a rather stressful time, but there is no perfect time. Try and just focus on what you can do, rather than what you can't do. Your Mom sure already had her hands full, but you never know what his capabilities will be...

    I agree it does sound like a lot to be thankful for...Sometimes thing overshadow that, but in time I hope it becomes a little easier.

    Please keep us updated on your Dad, and yourself.:goodvibes
     

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