Does anyone else have extended family that make you feel guilty for taking immediate family vacations? Or maybe some advice before I lose my mind. My family is very small and we can budget a family trip w/airfair once a year, with in the last few years we've been going to Disney, and after this next trip we're not planning on going back for a few years. If it wasn't 'Disney' it would be something else. Traveling is a big life goal of mine. We are also both working parents and cherish our yearly family trip with just the three of us - it gives us bonding time. Along side that we try and also plan one extended family trip a year. Which is hard because we have a lot of different extended family groups, none of which live near us. Only one of them comes and visits us, and everyone else always wants to know when we are going to visit them. It's understandable that many of them have lifestyles and responsibilities (ie. farm animals) that you just can't easily get away from. But so do we and it makes it hard to balance all their needs and wants, as well as our desire to travel. And for many of these families when we mention saving up to take a trip they start asking and guilting when are we going to come see them. Not guilting us to invite them - but trying to make us feel bad for spending money on a family trip that doesn't involve visiting that family. It's gotten so bad I don't even want to share that part of our life, or tell any one where we are going. I can't even tell one family that we are visiting another family with out them making me feel bad we're not visiting them instead. I know I should feel happy that they all want to see us (I'm an orphan so family is a big deal), but I wish there was a way to make everyone happy while maintaining our yearly 'just us' family trip.